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Why do atheists and agnostics become so upset when a person who believes in a God or a Higher Being rejects them as dating potentials?
A seemingly great guy that I had been talking to literally became anger when I let him know that I couldn't date or become involved with an atheist after he divulged that information in a conversation. This is the 3rd time that I have had an atheist/agnostic become aggressive/hostile when I rejected them for being non-believers. I respect their right to not believe but why can't they respect my right to not date them?
I couldn't tell ya. Maybe something to do with them not seeing there choice as being something that important to others, in which case it is for some people.
In my opinion, the MAIN reason rejection hurts is because is it a value issue. I think when people are rejected, they feel like what they had to offer as a person has been studied, appraised, and rejected as invaluable. They take rejection very personally. It can cause them to question their own self-worth.
The vast majority of my friends are Atheist or Agnostic...and believe me, we've ALL been rejected for our lack of beliefs, but I can't think of anyone who got hostile.
I have no doubts they're out there, but I think a lot of them don't realize how important some people's religious beliefs are and to be rejected for that is absolutely ridiculous to them.
In my opinion, the MAIN reason rejection hurts is because is it a value issue. I think when people are rejected, they feel like what they had to offer as a person has been studied, appraised, and rejected as invaluable. They take rejection very personally. It can cause them to question their own self-worth.
I definitely understand that is a part of the hurt of being rejected. But ultimately I want someone in my life who is God-fearing or at the very least spiritual. I don't want to have "prove He exists" arguments for the rest of my life with someone. I don't want someone who would mock or challenge my religious beliefs. But it doesn't mean that I think atheists and agnostics are not good people.
You do know this goes both ways right?
I might not be the guy who can cherry-pick my ladies, but if I'm gonna go to bed with some jihadist woman in a burka, I'm gonna need to be pretty convinced the shortage of women have grown considerably...
Ok jokes aside I don't really care much if a date of mine runs off to church every now and then,
I like having some space of my own so why shouldn't she?
But she better not demand it of me to tag along on a sunday when I could have been having a beer with the neighbors or reading a book...
The potential problem is if we'd get kids and she teaches them religious beliefs before they have developed their critical thinking properly.
The vast majority of my friends are Atheist or Agnostic...and believe me, we've ALL been rejected for our lack of beliefs, but I can't think of anyone who got hostile.
I have no doubts they're out there, but I think a lot of them don't realize how important some people's religious beliefs are and to be rejected for that is absolutely ridiculous to them.
A few years ago and guy literally made me cry when he started ripping into and belittling my religious beliefs AFTER I told him that I couldn't date an agnostic and that we could only be friends.
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