Boyfriend lost a bet. Now he's mine for a week. What can I do to him? (dating, man)
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One day you'll look back at this post/thread and cringe. Sorry, but the behaviors you describe are not respectful. Not sure why you'd get joy out of humiliating a person you profess to love - even if he "is all in."
Just because someone doesn't like to participate in humiliating someone doesn't mean they are rigid and can't have fun
Not necessarily, just doesnt coincide with people I would date
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Originally Posted by Baldrick
So.... someone has to accept some humiliation to date you?....
Jokingly and occasionally, yep.
Oddly enough its never been much of an issue. Girls that tend to be like that are often more fun, outgoing, etc.
What some of you seem to be missing is humility is not always a bad thing. Humiliation is often fun and amusing. Also, what you guys consider "humiliation" many consider nothing of the sort.
Me wearing my halloween costumes would kill some people with embarrassment if they wore them, does nothing of the sort to me.
I talked to my girlfriends. They LOVE the idea. We're gonna take him shopping, have him serve us as a French maid, take him to the spa, give him a name.
What should his girl's name be? We will call him this all week. A real and feminine name is best (nothing silly or outdated, please).
I found the PERFECT french maid outfit. It's from Australia, so I called my old friend who lives there, she went out and bought it first thing and sent it rush delivery. Should be here Saturday morning. Here's a pic French Maid Outfit - Bras N Things
I already have my preparations planned. Tonight, Friday, after work I will take him to get waxed from head to toe, get his mani-pedi etc. Then we will go pick out a wig (I found a nice quality shop with real human hair wigs; pricey but worth it).
Saturday, the girls and us will go shopping at the mall. I already picke dup one outfit that he can wear when we go shopping (it's just a cute grey top top and a fun blue skirt from Forever 21 plus bra and panties). We'll shop til we drop. My friends and I are going to treat him to a new wardrobe (they all wanna pitch in) so he can have at least one outfit per day, and maybe more.
What kind of outfits should we buy?
What kind of lingerie should we get him?
The rest of Saturday he will serve us in the french maid outfit. Sunday we might go to the beach with him in a bikini.
I talked to my girlfriends. They LOVE the idea. We're gonna take him shopping, have him serve us as a French maid, take him to the spa, give him a name.
What should his girl's name be? We will call him this all week. A real and feminine name is best (nothing silly or outdated, please).
I found the PERFECT french maid outfit. It's from Australia, so I called my old friend who lives there, she went out and bought it first thing and sent it rush delivery. Should be here Saturday morning. Here's a pic French Maid Outfit - Bras N Things
I already have my preparations planned. Tonight, Friday, after work I will take him to get waxed from head to toe, get his mani-pedi etc. Then we will go pick out a wig (I found a nice quality shop with real human hair wigs; pricey but worth it).
Saturday, the girls and us will go shopping at the mall. I already picke dup one outfit that he can wear when we go shopping (it's just a cute grey top top and a fun blue skirt from Forever 21 plus bra and panties). We'll shop til we drop. My friends and I are going to treat him to a new wardrobe (they all wanna pitch in) so he can have at least one outfit per day, and maybe more.
What kind of outfits should we buy?
What kind of lingerie should we get him?
The rest of Saturday he will serve us in the french maid outfit. Sunday we might go to the beach with him in a bikini.
It's going to be an awesome week.
Perfect!
I see no issue with it, but you will obviously know gauged on his reaction. If he gets mad and is an "absolutely no way" then obviously not a good idea. But of course if he doesn't have much of an issue it's no biggie.
Don't let some of the people posting in this thread get to you, everyone is different and just because some of them walk around with sticks up their.... it doesn't mean everyone does If I lost a bet and my gf and her friends wanted to do that, I'd totally be down. I think it's good that your friends are willing to be involved, esp. going places. If it was just you two I think that would make it a bit more awkward.
Deep down, he'll like it. It'll be super fun. We agreed that we're not going to laugh at him or make fun of him. He will be our servant some of the time, and he will be 'punished' if he performs poorly (spanking our little maid if she screws up), but we're not going to torture him.
I did bring up the idea of him 'servicing' us, we're still unsure as he's my boyfriend, but we'll talk about it more (friends are all single). We will demand that he strip for us and dance naked.
I did bring up the idea of him 'servicing' us, we're still unsure as he's my boyfriend, but we'll talk about it more (friends are all single).
Haha, woooooooooow... If you did that, it would be about the most amazing thing other. Just make sure you could handle it and not get mad/jealous in the future or let it affect your relationship! Some people would have no issue, if that's you, then go for it.... anddddddd... report back
We're also going to have a messy day with him. Make him get naked and we'll make him into a giant sundae; whipped cream, syrups, cherries, sprinkles, fruit etc. We can eat it off him and just smother him in it. We're also gonna do stuff like throw pies at him, dump pudding and jello on him etc (on a tarp of course). Lol we're gonna have to get bikinis because I foresee it getting messy for all of us (but he'll be the main target, lol). Any other messy ideas?
Deep down, he'll like it. It'll be super fun. We agreed that we're not going to laugh at him or make fun of him. He will be our servant some of the time, and he will be 'punished' if he performs poorly (spanking our little maid if she screws up), but we're not going to torture him.
I did bring up the idea of him 'servicing' us, we're still unsure as he's my boyfriend, but we'll talk about it more (friends are all single). We will demand that he strip for us and dance naked.
I can't wait to show him off at the mall.
I hate to be the one to talk as though I am raining on the OP's upcoming parade here, but to put it candidly, some of the behaviors described show a distinct lack of boundaries and a serious lack of respect for your boyfriend
Dancing the "full Monty" for you and your girlfriends? Intimately *servicing* you and your girlfriends together all at once? Forcibly making him dress as and roleplay a female French maid? Spanking? Dumping tubs of food and beverages all over him? I'm sorry, but some these things that you are asking him to do are not only shocking, degrading, and humiliating, but are also simply very wrong and taboo. (For example, can one reasonably equate "servicing" as the equivalent of a "group orgy"?) Seriously??
If I were hypothetically in your boyfriend's shoes, I would literally not walk, but run away from you and your friends, as quickly as possible, and never look back. What you are doing to your boyfriend is simply *not* love!!
I hate to be the one to talk as though I am raining on the OP's upcoming parade here, but to put it candidly, some of the behaviors described show a distinct lack of boundaries and a serious lack of respect for your boyfriend
Dancing the "full Monty" for you and your girlfriends? Intimately *servicing* you and your girlfriends together all at once? Forcibly making him dress as and roleplay a female French maid? Spanking? Dumping tubs of food and beverages all over him? I'm sorry, but some these things that you are asking him to do are not only shocking, degrading, and humiliating, but are also simply very wrong and taboo. (For example, can one reasonably equate "servicing" as the equivalent of a "group orgy"?) Seriously??
If I were hypothetically in your boyfriend's shoes, I would literally not walk, but run away from you and your friends, as quickly as possible, and never look back. What you are doing to your boyfriend is simply *not* love!!
OP: please re-consider what you are doing!!
Yeah, good call. I would hate for a girl to MAKE me "service" herself and all of her friends.
All relationships are different. All she can do is talk to the bf about it and see how he handles it. I doubt the OP is going to FORCE him to do anything he doesn't want to. By the sounds of it, if she thinks he'll be cool with all of this, he's probably a pretty fun and outgoing guy.
I hate to be the one to talk as though I am raining on the OP's upcoming parade here, but to put it candidly, some of the behaviors described show a distinct lack of boundaries and a serious lack of respect for your boyfriend
Dancing the "full Monty" for you and your girlfriends? Intimately *servicing* you and your girlfriends together all at once? Forcibly making him dress as and roleplay a female French maid? Spanking? Dumping tubs of food and beverages all over him? I'm sorry, but some these things that you are asking him to do are not only shocking, degrading, and humiliating, but are also simply very wrong and taboo. (For example, can one reasonably equate "servicing" as the equivalent of a "group orgy"?) Seriously??
If I were hypothetically in your boyfriend's shoes, I would literally not walk, but run away from you and your friends, as quickly as possible, and never look back. What you are doing to your boyfriend is simply *not* love!!
OP: please re-consider what you are doing!!
I have to agree with you. There is ribbing and holding someone to the terms of a bet in a fun way, and there is seeking to humiliate and dehumanize someone. I don't care how good a sport someone claims to be, no one but a masochist is going to enjoy most of this stuff. Something tells me the OP is going to find this out the hard way. He may go along with it, but he's also going to remember it.
Never ask someone to do something you wouldn't do yourself. OP, if your boyfriend wanted to dump food on you and have you give all of his friends blow jobs, would you be okay with that?
And for the audience, if the situation were reversed as I've described it, would you be okay with it? Or would you be outraged at the seeming misogyny and abuse of it? Because it seems to me this is one of those times where, ha ha, it's funny to do something to a man that would have NOW up in arms if it was done to a woman.
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If I lost a bet and my gf and her friends wanted to do that, I'd totally be down. I think it's good that your friends are willing to be involved, esp. going places. If it was just you two I think that would make it a bit more awkward.
Forcibly making him dress as and roleplay a female French maid? Spanking? Dumping tubs of food and beverages all over him? I'm sorry, but some these things that you are asking him to do are not only shocking, degrading, and humiliating, but are also simply very wrong and taboo. (For example, can one reasonably equate "servicing" as the equivalent of a "group orgy"?) Seriously?? 
