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I've been out with a few but we never got very far.
I try to avoid gynecologists whenever possible though I've spoken to one about it. She seems nice and has given me sedatives, but they didn't help. Other people here have suggested therapy, but I haven't had any.
My therapy was a few glasses of wine beforehand! Not enough to be drunk, but just enough to relax. It also helped I was with someone I really cared about and vice versa. You just need to keep dating until you find the right guy. Like someone else said, it's really a numbers game. Just keep trying and don't settle!!!
If you are sexually attracted to only 10% of the men you see then perhaps you have an issue... is that even normal? I know I am attracted to at least 60% of women I see...at least on some level
My therapy was a few glasses of wine beforehand! Not enough to be drunk, but just enough to relax. It also helped I was with someone I really cared about and vice versa. You just need to keep dating until you find the right guy. Like someone else said, it's really a numbers game. Just keep trying and don't settle!!!
I imagine it would help, but I feel like people don't really care about you these days until AFTER the sex (and sometimes not even then).
I imagine it would help, but I feel like people don't really care about you these days until AFTER the sex (and sometimes not even then).
Okay, now you're just looking for an excuse to remain a virgin. If you are never willing to open up and take a chance, then guess what, no one will want to get to know you. Life is full of risk and it seems you are much more happy painting yourself into a tight corner. There's nothing wrong with that, but you can't complain about the outcome either.
Honestly, being a virgin is not your problem, but how defensive you are about even getting to know someone is. At your age, men have no desire to deal with that. Boys will, but not men.
Okay, now you're just looking for an excuse to remain a virgin. If you are never willing to open up and take a chance, then guess what, no one will want to get to know you. Life is full of risk and it seems you are much more happy painting yourself into a tight corner. There's nothing wrong with that, but you can't complain about the outcome either.
Honestly, being a virgin is not your problem, but how defensive you are about even getting to know someone is. At your age, men have no desire to deal with that. Boys will, but not men.
Recognizing that many men are unlikely to care much about someone who they haven't already had sex with doesn't mean that I'm "defensive about getting to know someone."
I think it's quite rare, but I've communicated with others online who have the issue.
I hope that you find the right guy that will help you get through this. It seems like something silly to worry about that is ultimately obstructing a special part of life.
I hope that you find the right guy that will help you get through this. It seems like something silly to worry about that is ultimately obstructing a special part of life.
Thanks! Either I'll overcome it or I'll remain single and a virgin forever. To me, that isn't the worst fate imaginable, but I know that it probably is for some people.
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