Girl shows interest first, thinks that i am not interested, won't take my calls

[mikestrong]

Move on. To little to late.

[TelecasterBlues]

Stop trying to figure it out and go meet somebody else. It really is a numbers thing, and I'm sure there are lots of girls out there who you will be attracted to. Refocus and put your efforts into the next one.

[MarshallV84]

Originally Posted by BillH

I took 3 weeks to call her. Yes, i know that i am an idiot. Additionally, i didn't necessarily show strong interest when i first met her.

Part of it was me being stupid, and part of it was due to unusual circumstances.

The hard part is convincing her that i actually like her. She thinks that "I'm not really into her". I get the feeling that she only thinks that i'm contacting her for sex or because she rejected me (wanting what you can't have).

I've been sending her texts (she has never responded).


What's the most effective way to turn this situation around? How can i convince her that i actually like her, and that i wouldn't leave her eventually? I know that she likes me or at least liked me, but i can't seem to get anywhere.


Here's my 3 ideas:

Use someone else's phone to try to call her, but i don't know how to convince her.
Get someone else to call her and try to explain what happened.
Send her a long text explaining everything and asking for her back.


The problem is that she may not believe me or if i overdo it, it makes me look like a weirdo.

Move along bro. You goofed.

Happened to me too.. Amazing first date, she contacted me first the next day while I was on a unplanned business trip for a week. I didn't explain it and just contacted her for a date later on. I can see how I may of came off uninterested. Then it went cold. I really, really liked her too

**** happens. I found some other cool chick to date!

[TelecasterBlues]

This is exactly what I just posted about in another thread though...why not just accept the obvious that you're both interested in spending time with each other and figure out when to call and who's calling right on the spot? People sabotage their own interests and happiness due to the unwritten rules of dating/game playing. Nowhere is it written that you have to play phone games as part of getting to know someone, but people always swing that way for whatever reason. Just take that part out of it.