Ladies who date online, how many messages do you like to exchange with a guy before (dating, women)

[FBJ]

you are ready to exchange numbers?

i think I let this woman play me like a fool the other night. I chatted with her on the site for about 40 mins and then I suggested we transition to the phone. But it appears she was just bored and like a idiot i didn't pick up on it and wasted my time. Especially since she didn't offer her number when I gave mine.

So basically she made a fool out of me and want to ask the ladies on here how many messages do you like to exchange before offering your number?


This was on Wednesday Night and still have yet to get a text or call from her. I definitely don't want this to happen again the rest of the summer

[Raena77]

She might still give it.

I think I talked to some a month or more before I gave my #.

[FBJ]

Originally Posted by Raena77

She might still give it.

I think I talked to some a month or more before I gave my #.

I was thinking we would talk briefly that night since we spent so much time chatting online. Plus it was the night before the holiday so I wanted to kind of talk briefly and then maybe talk again sunday or monday.

So if I see her online you know what's going to happen LOL

[Raena77]

Originally Posted by WestPhillyDude75

I was thinking we would talk briefly that night since we spent so much time chatting online. Plus it was the night before the holiday so I wanted to kind of talk briefly and then maybe talk again sunday or monday.

So if I see her online you know what's going to happen LOL

You are going to pounce her? Lol

[srjth]

Originally Posted by WestPhillyDude75

But it appears she was just bored...

I doubt she was just bored. People on dating sites are usually looking for and sizing up dates.

Talking is a step in the human mating dance though. It must be done. It won't always yield the results you want though but it must be done.

[FBJ]

Originally Posted by Raena77

You are going to pounce her? Lol

Fetish Proposition lol

[FBJ]

Originally Posted by srjth

I doubt she was just bored. People on dating sites are usually looking for and sizing up dates.

Talking is a step in the human mating dance though. It must be done. It won't always yield the results you want though but it must be done.

I just can't understand why someone would exchange 25 messages and not want to hear my voice.

Then when I suggested talking on the phone she made this weird statement

"Are you trying to make sure i am not a man?"


seems like most women are not expecting a guy to want to chat on the phone

[cloven]

I generally don't do a phone call before meeting a new person, so it's rare that I provide that info. (my #).
We msg. & may switch to email, then-if things continue to go well, that is-set up a meeting day/time (public place).

[Raena77]

Originally Posted by WestPhillyDude75

I just can't understand why someone would exchange 25 messages and not want to hear my voice.

Then when I suggested talking on the phone she made this weird statement

"Are you trying to make sure i am not a man?"


seems like most women are not expecting a guy to want to chat on the phone

Ahahahaha........well......she's right.

[zentropa]

Two to three messages before a meeting is set up. I have no qualms about getting together with someone immediately. It gets me out of the house and I am not one of those people who feels awkward about having coffee or drinks with a stranger. I am always up to make new friends and have an interesting social exchange even if there is no spark. What do I have to lose?

By the way, I don't consider these interactions "dates" but more like networking. You never know when someone might be able to improve your life socially, professionally, etc. Widen the circle, is my motto.