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Old 07-06-2013, 09:13 PM
 
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In general, is being a single parent, in terms of dating, worse for men or for women?

Consider the factors of social stigma and distribution of the custody of the child.

...Though I'd have to figure that the scene changes greatly as one gets older and the children move out.
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Old 07-06-2013, 09:17 PM
 
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It's not bad. I had dates. Many my age that are single are also divorced.

Some people in real life do like us. Lol
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Old 07-06-2013, 09:26 PM
 
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Everything I've heard or read seems to indicate that while dating can be difficult for most single parents, it's much harder for custodial men to get dates. I could speculate on why, but I'll see what others say first.
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Old 07-06-2013, 09:28 PM
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Before I was married I dated a few single parents. If I was interested in her I was interested and didn't let her single parent status throw me off track. In each of these experiences, it was always some factor other than her child(ren) that resulted in us splitting up.
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Old 07-06-2013, 09:38 PM
 
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I would guess that single women have it harder because they usually have custody so have the kids more often.

When I was dating I would have preferred a man with no (or grown) children.... but married a man with kids, and it's nice. Despite the fact that DH and son are cooking tonight..... I suspect we will eat around midnight. /lol
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Old 07-06-2013, 09:40 PM
 
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The only thing that makes it different is not having as much freedom to be spontaneous and just take off anywhere you want like you could when you were childless. You free time is less than before if you have shared custody, and even less if you have full custody. I have shared custody and find that I have more free time than when I was married. (something I never thought about when I got divorced, that I'd end up getting a break/time without the kids by not living together anymore).

As for social stigma, I've not experienced any negativity IRL. In dating though, the person you date or marry will probably always feel negatively towards your child's mother/father. There won't be drama if all parties are mature but the ex will never exactly be a favorite person to your new love.
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Old 07-06-2013, 09:44 PM
 
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I'm not a single parent but know many guys who date single moms whereas almost every childless women I know avoids dads (and so do many moms which is odd). Going by that I would say it's probably easier for single moms to date.
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Old 07-06-2013, 09:50 PM
 
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I'd date a single dad.
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Old 07-06-2013, 09:57 PM
 
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I'm not a single parent but know many guys who date single moms whereas almost every childless women I know avoids dads (and so do many moms which is odd). Going by that I would say it's probably easier for single moms to date.
The thing about single moms....

...Is that too many men use them to get a lay, instead of commitment. So how do things stack up considering that?
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Old 07-06-2013, 09:59 PM
 
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The thing about single moms....

...Is that too many men use them to get a lay, instead of commitment. So how do things stack up considering that?
That makes sense, especially when it comes to never married moms. Many men I know think they are losers (sorry but this is what they tell me)for having kids with men who disappear and figure she's just for fun.
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