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The only way a woman will know you approach, approach, approach is if you tell her (or she sees it--like you are walking down a line asking every woman out).
I would say to avoid seeming desperate (and improve your chances) try to focus and talk to a woman about something you like about her (non-physical is best).
So for example, say you strike up a conversation with a woman in line at the movies. Ask her what she is seeing and why then pick up on something. So if she's seeing, for example, The Wolverine ask her if she likes superhero films. If she does, build on that, compliment her by saying, something like "it's nice to meet someone who likes Marvel as much as I do." Build some more, and more and maybe get to the point of, "hey, let's watch the movie together" and plan to talk about the movie afterwards over coffee, or a snack at a nearby restaurant, etc, etc. Just keep building with baby steps and keep in low-key at first. Use the time to sell yourself and let her know what kind of guy you are. It's more effective than going 0-60, "hey, want to go out on a date?"
Of course, that's just my opinion and what would work on me
The rest will think we're creeps (unless he's attractive).
So sick of seeing this. What women don't realize is most average guys realize this as we go thru life-
We are average or short and we get cold shouldered by average women looking to date up. Then you get so tired fo rejection you hit on a female you're not even attracted to, someone "average or below" but due to SO MANY OTHER below average guys hitting on the below average women that their egos get inflated and they too get picky-
Basically most women are shooting for the top 10-20% of guys and arent willing to settle. Most men also want the top women, but we are willing to settle-
so please stop suggesting we try "average women" most guys I know have never and would never hit on a "perfect 10" because we KNOW we don't stand a chance.
And yet, average women are getting with, and marrying, nerdy and geeky guys, or shy average guys, all the time. They don't regard it as "settling" at all. They think they've struck gold, because the guy has the qualities they're looking for.
Luck, good looks, and money. The rest have drugs, porn, and escorts. Truth.
Hmm.
I met my guy through an online dating service, so we were both actively looking for dates so no real luck there, neither one of us is particularly good looking and I'd say he's average while I'm probably a bit below average (though he would beg to differ ) and I still have no idea how much money he makes/has.
Please don't tell us what we already know. Cold Approaches comes down to you trying to get a woman to not only stop to listen, but want her to know more about you- or make her feel comfortable enough to want to get to know you- in aobut 15 seconds- this comes down to looks.
Not saying, looks get the date and the girl. I'm saying looks get the initial chance to audition for a a date or number. Ugly guys get cold shoulder, ignored, the infamous "look down at my phone or pretend I'm on the phone" so that we don't even get the initial chance to audition.
Not that someone from YOUR generation would understand.
You're right.
What attracts people to each other, and how couples get together has completely changed int eh last 20 years. And it is all biological and hardwired and evolutionary.
The rest will think we're creeps (unless he's attractive).
If a woman thinks you are a creep just because you approach, then trust me, you are better off without an immature drama queen.
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) and I still have no idea how much money he makes/has.
