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I say this because I see a lot of people out there recommending various PUA books to read for guys who struggle to get girls. To me, these books are very misleading and do more harm than good
The reason I say this is because these books make it seem like getting a girlfriend is the equivalent of climbing mount everest. They make it seem like the only guys getting girls are those with impeccable charisma/confidence, social skills, jobs, looks, style, etc... In reality, it's all complete nonsense. I go out all the time and I see plenty of average looking, average personality, average income, average style guys with lovely girlfriends. I talk to these men and there is nothing special about them - they don't have any great charisma or wit. They're just normal nice people who are not afraid to be themselves
To me, the great irony is these books preach "don't put the ***** on the pedestal"...but that's exactly when they do when they make you feel like you need to read a 300 page book to get a girl (when men have been dating for thousands of years without needing any books). We need to have some books that just preach being comfortable with oneself, decreasing the perceived challenge of dating for men and other things that will help struggling guys out (like myself)
What I don't like about it is it takes all the authenticity and natural flow out of dating. It eliminates the positive, natural experience of being yourself with other people. A real relationship isn't based on a book of rules. At some point you have to learn to just be yourself.
What I don't like about it is it takes all the authenticity and natural flow out of dating. It eliminates the positive, natural experience of being yourself with other people. A real relationship isn't based on a book of rules. At some point you have to learn to just be yourself.
I say this because I see a lot of people out there recommending various PUA books to read for guys who struggle to get girls. To me, these books are very misleading and do more harm than good
The reason I say this is because these books make it seem like getting a girlfriend is the equivalent of climbing mount everest. They make it seem like the only guys getting girls are those with impeccable charisma/confidence, social skills, jobs, looks, style, etc... In reality, it's all complete nonsense. I go out all the time and I see plenty of average looking, average personality, average income, average style guys with lovely girlfriends. I talk to these men and there is nothing special about them - they don't have any great charisma or wit. They're just normal nice people who are not afraid to be themselves
To me, the great irony is these books preach "don't put the ***** on the pedestal"...but that's exactly when they do when they make you feel like you need to read a 300 page book to get a girl (when men have been dating for thousands of years without needing any books). We need to have some books that just preach being comfortable with oneself, decreasing the perceived challenge of dating for men and other things that will help struggling guys out (like myself)
The PUA world is an industry. Just like payday loans, it's an easy way for businessmen to take advantage of desperate people.
I say this because I see a lot of people out there recommending various PUA books to read for guys who struggle to get girls. To me, these books are very misleading and do more harm than good
The reason I say this is because these books make it seem like getting a girlfriend is the equivalent of climbing mount everest. They make it seem like the only guys getting girls are those with impeccable charisma/confidence, social skills, jobs, looks, style, etc... In reality, it's all complete nonsense. I go out all the time and I see plenty of average looking, average personality, average income, average style guys with lovely girlfriends. I talk to these men and there is nothing special about them - they don't have any great charisma or wit. They're just normal nice people who are not afraid to be themselves
To me, the great irony is these books preach "don't put the ***** on the pedestal"...but that's exactly when they do when they make you feel like you need to read a 300 page book to get a girl (when men have been dating for thousands of years without needing any books). We need to have some books that just preach being comfortable with oneself, decreasing the perceived challenge of dating for men and other things that will help struggling guys out (like myself)
..and if the book and workshop make you feel like it's difficult and complicated, then you might buy another book and another workshop...
Exactly.
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