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A lot of people talk about lowering your standards, or settling for someone who isn't really what you want.
But is that even really possible? For you?
I don't think I could sustain a relationship for three months, let alone 30 years, with someone I didn't really want to be with. The whole thing would be like fingernails on a blackboard to me. Is this just because I am a bit of an introvert?
A lot of people talk about lowering your standards, or settling for someone who isn't really what you want.
But is that even really possible? For you?
I don't think I could sustain a relationship for three months, let alone 30 years, with someone I didn't really want to be with. The whole thing would be like fingernails on a blackboard to me. Is this just because I am a bit of an introvert?
What if what you want isn't realistic? Isn't it smart to revise your standards if they aren't realistic in the first place?
I "settled" for less than a wealthy supermodel. Maybe I was just realistic? Anyway, I'm very happy with my choice and expect no difficulty sustaining our relationship - and gosh, I'm an introvert too!
For me it's more about how I feel. If I wasn't completely "feeling it" then I would consider myself settling. I wouldn't want to do that because it would be completely unfair to my girlfriend. Luckily for me we've been together for just over two years and I've felt it for the entirety of our relationship.
I also don't do "deal breakers" since every person and situation is different.
A lot of people talk about lowering your standards, or settling for someone who isn't really what you want.
But is that even really possible? For you?
I don't think I could sustain a relationship for three months, let alone 30 years, with someone I didn't really want to be with. The whole thing would be like fingernails on a blackboard to me. Is this just because I am a bit of an introvert?
I think there is a huge difference between having realistic standards and settling.
Settling, to me, means having a relationship with someone who just doesn't feel 'right' to you, or who doesn't have basic characteristics that you need in order to be content in a relationship. It means committing to being at least a bit unhappy, all the time.
Settling, to me, means having a relationship with someone who just doesn't feel 'right' to you, or who doesn't have basic characteristics that you need in order to be content in a relationship. It means committing to being at least a bit unhappy, all the time.
This I agree with completely. I would rather be alone than settle for that kind of relationship. Better to keep alive the hope of finding someone truly compatible than kill the hope by choosing the wrong person.
Nope, I would never settle. That goes for anything in life. I might readjust my expectations if what I'm after isn't realistic, but I won't settle...not for a job, a man, consumer goods..etc.
My life is very happy - a lot of loved ones and rewarding activities. I have no reason to settle for someone who doesn't add to my happiness.
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