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The other side is that I'm way lucky to even be in this situation..
It's like coming across $100 bill, not picking it up, then justifying that by thinking 'oh well, I'll just find another...and if not, maybe it wasn't meant to be'...A part of me wishes I was 5 years older as it wouldn't even be a question then...
Maybe the spark is supposed to die. Maybe that's what they mean by 'relationships take work'.
Also, Zentropia...or whatever...you can levy all the abuse you want at me, I'll just ignore you...but you shouldn't talk about her like that. She's a good person.
[quote=dub dub II;30389154]What if I call her up like 50 years from now, having lived an awesome life, only to find her never having been married and living with a bunch of cats? I don't want her to be the old cat lady...and if some guy isn't smart enough to snatch her up, we'll that guy would be an idiot. And that's me.
Dude you'll be replaced in 3 weeks..even if it is by cats. Seriously get over yourself and move on.
The other side is that I'm way lucky to even be in this situation..
It's like coming across $100 bill, not picking it up, then justifying that by thinking 'oh well, I'll just find another...and if not, maybe it wasn't meant to be'...A part of me wishes I was 5 years older as it wouldn't even be a question then...
Maybe the spark is supposed to die. Maybe that's what they mean by 'relationships take work'.
Also, Zentropia...or whatever...you can levy all the abuse you want at me, I'll just ignore you...but you shouldn't talk about her like that. She's a good person.
If you've been in this relationship for a number of years, then yeah, don't expect there to be "spark" like there was when you first met.
But that's not the problem. The bigger issue, if I read your original post correctly, is that she wants your kids and you don't want to have your kids. That's an irreconcilable difference.
Does the spark always die, really? Maybe I'm being stupid...she's a great person. Attractive, open, fun loving, jovial, always smiling, very protective, attractive, and pretty hot to boot...I don't know, a part of me is like...'marry the girl'...the other part is like 'shouldn't there be more?'.
What more do I want? Is the question...and I'm not sure whether to go ahead and answer the question, or to ignore it and let it become a 'what if..'.
What if I call her up like 50 years from now, having lived an awesome life, only to find her never having been married and living with a bunch of cats? I don't want her to be the old cat lady...and if some guy isn't smart enough to snatch her up, we'll that guy would be an idiot. And that's me.
Dude you'll be replaced in 3 weeks..even if it is by cats. Seriously get over yourself and move on.
Does the spark always die, really? Maybe I'm being stupid...she's a great person. Attractive, open, fun loving, jovial, always smiling, very protective, attractive, and pretty hot to boot...I don't know, a part of me is like...'marry the girl'...the other part is like 'shouldn't there be more?'.
What more do I want? Is the question...and I'm not sure whether to go ahead and answer the question, or to ignore it and let it become a 'what if..'.
Relationships suck.
If you never had a spark, it does not come later. But no, it does not always die. I asked my husband today? He said, I am still stupid in love with you. Then later when we were joking around in the ER with the kids (don't even ask), he took my head in his hands and said "No the spark has not died". My heart still speeds up when I am going to see him.
Maybe I'm a romantic...but I always expected a sort of spark...an unquenching thirst of sorts...
I don't feel it with her. She's a good person, though, and I don't want to hurt her.
She's talking about 'wanting my children' and I'm having these thoughts. It's not a good thing.
And I'm the one who introduced the idea to her. Gave her the ideal, and now it's like I'm about to snatch it away from her...and I don't want it to ruin her.
If it were me, and I cared as much about another as she seems to about me, and it was snatched away from me...I'd die.
I don't want her to die.
What do I do?
Relax Prince Charming she's not going to die.
Lol.
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