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My point still stands you cant force attraction..Im attracted to whom im attracted to it has nothing to do with unrelalistic standards the media or whatever i simply cant control what im attracted to..
Doesnt mean im only into sueprmodels far from it but it doesnt mean i can force attraction with somebody because you or anyone else think its a more realistic standard becasue of both our levels of attraction are close or where in the same league..
AS i said id rather be alone if adjusting my stadnards more realistically means being with women im not attracted to at all but its the only ones who will say yes to me..
This post does nothing to address my post that you quoted. I agree that you can't force attraction, but you can develop it. Think of food. People can develop a taste for a specific kind of cuisine, right? Why would they not be able to develop their attractions? I did.
Regarding your comments on being alone, this is exactly what I am talking about. With so many options out there I think anyone who reaches this conclusion is harboring some unrealistic ideals on some level. So be it, it's your choice.
I think it's an interesting question: How do guys develop these high standards in the first place? Why do they expect women to be something they, themselves, are not?
For myself, my standards have been developed from personal experience. As a youth I wasn't sure of my level of attractiveness, but as I naturally attracted good looking women and more so as my confidence rose, my standards rose with it. For me, its been experience and knowing that I can keep high standards and not lose out.
I've never lowered my standards - if anything, I've raised them over time. My standards weren't the problem - the candidate pool sometimes was. There were times I had to wait until someone who could meet them came along, but eventually, someone always would.
Of course, if no one had ever come along who met them, I'd have had to examine my standards eventually.
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"Indian medical students". How Indians come somehow in topics all time? Above post suggest that Indian illegal immigrants that stay after theirs visa is expired and study at expense of US tax payers are good catch? About theirs physical aspect will not say nothing because will be banned and not willing to write if I can't say true. And I haven’t see jet one man who like Indian women.
WHAT? You have misunderstood my stereotyping. Isn't the owner of the Quicky Mart on The Simpsons Indian? At any rate, most of the convenience stores near me are owned and run by Indians, which is why I used that example.
Get a grip, why don't you?
This post does nothing to address my post that you quoted. I agree that you can't force attraction, but you can develop it. Think of food. People can develop a taste for a specific kind of cuisine, right? Why would they not be able to develop their attractions? I did.
Regarding your comments on being alone, this is exactly what I am talking about. With so many options out there I think anyone who reaches this conclusion is harboring some unrealistic ideals on some level. So be it, it's your choice.
But i dont have a specifc type or ideal i dont need a 9 or 10 just someone i find at least somewhat cute..if i find a women physically unattractive i dont care how great her personality is i cant be intimate with her..
But i dont have a specifc type or ideal i dont need a 9 or 10 just someone i find at least somewhat cute..if i find a women physically unattractive i dont care how great her personality is i cant be intimate with her..
Understood. I've made that clear. And I am not trying to change your mind, either. If you would rather be alone that's your choice. You can't force attraction, after all. But you can DEVELOP it.
It didn't even take loneliness for me. I am happy to say I've never really had to deal with that. All it took for me was a little open mindedness. I once dated only fit/athletic girls but that changed slowly and before I knew it I dated only overweight women. And it wasn't because of lack of success with other body types. It was that I slowly opened myself up to acknowledge that I a pretty girl can be found in a plus size too. Once I reached that point, it was amazing to me how open minded I was about a woman's appearance.
If you don't think preference can be developed, that's fine. I contend it can be and feel people who refuse to even try are doing themselves a disservice.
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