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So i am 20 years old and i havent had a girlfriend ever, and i admit i am overweight and out of shape.this i am working on. But ive always been told, kind of a cliche; that when it comes to love age nor looks matter.
But since the fact remains that ive never had a girlfriend, it worries me that i may never get a girlfriend. Part of this may be because i have Aspergers Syndrome, which is a type of autism that is basically social anxiety and awkwardness. This i am sure cant help the situation.
Anyways with that being said, ive always seen relatives that are older and like me over weight; find partners and get married. My aunt actually did this about a year ago. Really i just sometimes wish i could find someone who i can be with like that and understands me and enjoys being around me. Im not looking for sex or super model girls. Im just looking for a girlfriend that i can spend time with that will "become my best friend" so to speak. Why is it i cant find a girlfriend like that or a girlfriend at all for that matter?
i do occasionally try to get out an interact with people but sometimes i feel people just dont understand me probably because of aspergers. lll say something wierd on accident and people are immediately turned off by me, like they dont know what to say to me and end up walking away. I have had this happen more than once actually. so its hard to make friends for me, even when i explain to them what aspergers is it makes this more difficult. Much less find a girlfriend, that is attracted to me and understands. But i cant seem to understand why people are so rejected towards people like me or towards me specifically. Is it something im doing? how do i fix this?
So i am 20 years old and i havent had a girlfriend ever, and i admit i am overweight and out of shape.this i am working on. But ive always been told, kind of a cliche; that when it comes to love age nor looks matter.
But since the fact remains that ive never had a girlfriend, it worries me that i may never get a girlfriend. Part of this may be because i have Aspergers Syndrome, which is a type of autism that is basically social anxiety and awkwardness. This i am sure cant help the situation.
Anyways with that being said, ive always seen relatives that are older and like me over weight; find partners and get married. My aunt actually did this about a year ago. Really i just sometimes wish i could find someone who i can be with like that and understands me and enjoys being around me. Im not looking for sex or super model girls. Im just looking for a girlfriend that i can spend time with that will "become my best friend" so to speak. Why is it i cant find a girlfriend like that or a girlfriend at all for that matter?
I hate to say this, but you are way to young to hit the panic button yet.
Come back 15 years from now, and if you are still unable to get a gf, then post a venting thread.
For the 50,000,000 time to every post just like this, improve your SELF worth. Educate yourself. Be healthy. Get a hobby or 10. Stay out of trouble. Oh, and the ever so popular, "go workout".
I don't know who told you that, rest assured, age and looks matter.
I would try on line dating. Put in your profile that you are looking for someone to have fun and get in shape with. Explain upfront that you have Asperger's and how it affects your relationships.
In the meantime, go workout, join some clubs (meetup.com), get hobbies and have fun working on yourself.
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You could try therapy or an Asperger's support group.
I would actually wonder if the opposite of Mikala's advice is possibly helpful --- don't make such a big deal out of Asperger's. 100 years ago there was no such concept, even though people with this condition existed. Somehow they got by without throwing their label out there like its a scarlet letter, because the label didn't exist. People don't understand you ? Well, they don't understand me either, but I can make some friends. We call ourselves "eccentric" or "weird". ...
But anyways, therapy or support group is a good idea I think.
Lose weight
Gain muscle
Get a haircut
Buy stylish clothes
Learn to socialize
Experience interesting experiences
Get interesting hobbies
...and you should be set.
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