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Old 07-16-2013, 08:28 PM
 
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I've known this guy for over 2 years. In the beginning, hechased me pretty hard. We dated for about a month, but he stopped pursuing mebecause he knew I was the type that would require a committed relationship, andhe couldn't provide that. Which was ok for me since I had JUST gotten out of a3 year relationship. Cool - we became friends (I have completely infiltratedhis circle - his friends <3 me) and we work together sometimes (freelance gigs).

Anyhow, we would try and start up dating againsometimes...but the same outcome occurred. No sex (we would usually fightbefore sex could occur 'cause he was an ass about something like beingflaky/his phone etiquette). I realized that I didn't want to date him or havean emotional attachment to him...I just wanted a physical commitment from him(I'm deathly afraid of catching STDs). He agreed to that and we both were excited

A few days later, he called off the arrangement and said that it would end badly...hearts would get broken, blah blah blah. I said they wouldn't...cause my heart was cool...but he INSISTED. Weird.

Anyway, that occurred about a year ago...and I have just recently had my heart smashed and broken by my ex and am in no place for a relationship. Last weekend, we partied together and things got a little erotic.The only reason sex didn't occur was because we **** and it got to be 6AM...we were tired and he had to leave at 9am for a meeting. Plus we had been pretty sensual with each other for a few hours at that point. It was time to sleeeep.

A couple of days later I wanted to "pick up where weleft off" and he totally freaked. I haven't heard from him today or yesterday and ...well...he's totally MIA.

My question is...what the hell? I'm finally in a place whereI JUST want to have fun, kick back and enjoy the good times with no bull **** -but he won't sleep with me. I'm baffled by this. Any ideas?

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Old 07-16-2013, 08:33 PM
 
Location: Twin Cities (StP)
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Just use protection. I don't want to have to pay for your illegitimate child.
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Old 07-16-2013, 08:38 PM
 
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Just use protection. I don't want to have to pay for your illegitimate child.
Trust me, you won't. On birth control.
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Old 07-16-2013, 08:39 PM
 
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Don't be fooled by the stereotype of Los Angeles being one giant boring suburb. The downtown area is making great strides and the new transit system is growing rapidly. Also many of the "suburbs" are interesting destinations in their own right, and there is a great variety of geography near by (mountains, deserts, beaches, etc.). This sets Los Angeles apart from many other major cities.
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Old 07-16-2013, 08:54 PM
 
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You snooze, you lose. You lost.
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Old 07-16-2013, 08:56 PM
 
Location: Middle of the ocean
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Just because you want to have casual sex with him doesn't mean he wants it with you.

I suspect you have already been too much of a pain, and he knows if you sleep together you will be worse. It's supposed to be casual, no drama, no fights - just fun.

Honestly, I think he made a good call.
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Old 07-16-2013, 08:57 PM
 
Location: Up North
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Maybe he is gay or in love with someone else?
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Old 07-16-2013, 08:57 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Don't be fooled by the stereotype of Los Angeles being one giant boring suburb. The downtown area is making great strides and the new transit system is growing rapidly. Also many of the "suburbs" are interesting destinations in their own right, and there is a great variety of geography near by (mountains, deserts, beaches, etc.). This sets Los Angeles apart from many other major cities.
This reply FTW!!!
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Old 07-16-2013, 08:58 PM
 
Location: Davenport, Iowa
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Any ideas?
Find someone else.
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Old 07-16-2013, 08:59 PM
 
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I agree with your friend totally. You have to just give up the idea of having sex or anything with him. This is why people who are attracted to each other can't be friends.
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