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Old 07-17-2013, 05:21 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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DOES it work for these families? I think tired resentful husband is a bad thing. Isn't he a member of the family?
I guess my feeling is that I don't really know the inner workings of other people's families. And I don't think it's any of my business. The woman in my son's gym class who is a SAHM with a full time nanny is young and gorgeous. She had a baby 3 months ago and could model a bikini. Her husband is 25 years older than her. Somehow, I don't think that he is tired and resentful of her!
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Old 07-17-2013, 05:23 PM
 
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I guess my feeling is that I don't really know the inner workings of other people's families.
Nope. Nor do I care.
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Old 07-17-2013, 05:25 PM
 
Location: NY metro area
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Nope. Nor do I care.
You care enough to be engaged in this discussion.
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Old 07-17-2013, 05:27 PM
 
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You care enough to be engaged in this discussion.

The poster asked what we each expected from a SAHP. I shared what I expected of myself and elaborated as to the why. That people are going to disagree with me does not hurt my feelings one whit.
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Old 07-17-2013, 05:32 PM
 
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DOES it work for these families? I think tired resentful husband is a bad thing. Isn't he a member of the family?
I think the tired, resentful husband thing is Internet hyperbole or reality TV. Maybe I'm just not in the mix with those types. With that said, I don't know why anybody cares or think it's their business.
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Old 07-17-2013, 05:34 PM
 
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I suppose to some a pedicure is more important than raising their own children and not having a stranger do it for them. Ive worked in some extremely wealthy areas in NW burbs of chicago, and while none of the women worked, they spent 90% of their time shopping at the malls, getting their hair and pedicures done, while complaining about how their husbands put a limit on their platinum credit cards, with both nanny and a maid working full time in their homes. How disgusting is that? Raise your own kids, women have done so for thousands of years. you can also clean your home, in between mroning soaps and being lazy on the couch.
A pedicure takes all of 60 minutes. All of a sudden someone getting a pedicure is not NOT raising their children. Good Lord.
I stayed home with my kids. I had 4 within 5 1/2 years...my life was nothing like you describe.


My favorite was always taking the kids to the OB's office. Yeah, that's fun!
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Old 07-17-2013, 05:37 PM
 
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A pedicure takes all of 60 minutes. All of a sudden someone getting a pedicure is not NOT raising their children. Good Lord.
I stayed home with my kids. I had 4 within 5 1/2 years...my life was nothing like you describe.


My favorite was always taking the kids to the OB's office. Yeah, that's fun!
I'm going for a pedi and to get my hair done next Friday and my poor husband will have to hang out with his darling before he goes to work as he does everyday. I love pedi's. I wish i could take my daughter with, but I don't want to expose her to the chemicals.
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Old 07-17-2013, 05:38 PM
 
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It's funny how nobody is in an uproar over people hiring landscapers, but a cleaning service is a no-no. LOL
Yeah, I know.

Well I am not ashamed to admit that caring for three energetic kids under 8 can be overwhelming for me at times. Technically, I'm not a SAHM, since I work at home. But since I only work a few hours a day, I often feel like I have the schedule and all the responsibilities of a SAHM.

Young children consume all your time and energy. Just caring for them, excluding housework, grocery shopping, cooking, laundry, ironing, school-related events, sports events, etc., is exhausting. So I am happy for all the help I can get. I have a cleaning lady come to the house once a week and I still can't keep my house the way I'd like, although I pick up and clean throughout the day as much as I can.

I'll take all the help I can get--babysitters, grandparents, relatives, etc. Darn right!
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Old 07-17-2013, 05:41 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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It's funny how nobody is in an uproar over people hiring landscapers, but a cleaning service is a no-no. LOL
Hiring a landscaper actually isn't anymore a part of my personal culture than hiring a cleaning service. I don't live in an area/move in circles where either is commonplace. Nor is having a nanny. Just very different worlds.
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Old 07-17-2013, 05:47 PM
 
Location: NY metro area
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Hiring a landscaper actually isn't anymore a part of my personal culture than hiring a cleaning service. I don't live in an area/move in circles where either is commonplace. Nor is having a nanny. Just very different worlds.

Everybody has a landscaper on Long Island. Even if you only own 1/8 of an acre.
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