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I have had plenty of hookups and I'm no longer interested in having sex right away. I'm getting closer to 30 and I really want a long term relationship now, as I want to have a family within the next 10 years. I don't want to have sex until I am for sure that the guy is reciprocating the same feelings. As soon as I tell a guy that although I am looking for an ltr, I don't want to have sex until it the time is right, they run for the hills. Am I doing anything wrong?
You're not doing anything wrong. Eventually you will find a guy who will stick around for a LTR, the guys who ran away are just not ready for a LTR.
I don't want to read all 10 pages so pardon me if I miss something.
I don't know when you are saying this to guys but I know I would be rather confused if early in the relationship she started trying to explain how long she wants to wait and that she wants commitment up front. If you are going to say something like that maybe you should just make it about how you want to get to know them better, not necessarily want commitment. I know I wouldn't commit to some chick I barely know.
I have had plenty of hookups and I'm no longer interested in having sex right away. I'm getting closer to 30 and I really want a long term relationship now, as I want to have a family within the next 10 years. I don't want to have sex until I am for sure that the guy is reciprocating the same feelings. As soon as I tell a guy that although I am looking for an ltr, I don't want to have sex until it the time is right, they run for the hills. Am I doing anything wrong?
So, basically, when you were with men you didn't really care about, you were willing to have sex right away. But now that you want a man to really care about you, you are going to withhold sex from him until "the time is right?"
Pffft. I'd dump you in a heartbeat! Women like you are the reason so many men think being a jerk is the way to go.
Her "emotional readiness" may just be semantic garbage, an egotistical attempt to roll back the clock and undo all the other guys she has screwed.
"Emotional readiness" is not garbage...I'm not even bothered by the OP's past, what happened then was in a totally different time in a totally different situation. People change over time when they reach a certain stage in their lives, and may feel like trying something new. Worrying about the past shows insecurity and causes misery. Everybody has baggage, so we have to accept that and deal with it
So, basically, when you were with men you didn't really care about, you were willing to have sex right away. But now that you want a man to really care about you, you are going to withhold sex from him until "the time is right?"
Pffft. I'd dump you in a heartbeat! Women like you are the reason so many men think being a jerk is the way to go.
I know I don't have a penis, but is it really that hard for a man to wait a month or two to have sex? That's not unreasonable regardless of what she's done in the past.
I wonder if a guy decided to wait 2-6 months, would the woman respect that? or assume him gay and bail?
Probably tell her friends, in which they will tell her to bail (leave, you deserve better) lol
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