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Old 07-19-2013, 11:14 AM
 
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As I stated, as described in this thread, nerds are not appealing to me. The OP said they are "obsessive" about comics, games, etc. Not my type.
Good point! I missed the "obessive."
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Old 07-19-2013, 12:16 PM
 
Location: USA
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Don't we get over these labels after high school? Nerds necessarily aren't always smart, while as "jocks" are not necessarily always dumb. You don't have to be a nerd to like video games or Star Trek since these are pretty much mainstream anymore.
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Old 07-19-2013, 01:14 PM
 
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This is a good occasion to distinguish between two kinds of nerds:

The first kind is the pop-culture, media type of nerd. Star Trek, Star Wars, Star whatever… costumes, role-playing games, first-person-shooter video games. The person may or may not be adroit with computer programming, but his (and typically it’s a “he”) job entails bench-level technical work, such as being the systems-administrator or help-desk guy.

The second kind is the college professor or research-lab senior scientist, who really never writes code himself, but instead delegates the task to more junior people. Such a person prefers the symphony orchestra to thematic conventions, and never dresses in costumes or plays video games, dismissing such avocations as sophomoric and inane.

The first time is clueless and typically of low social status, but is adorable in a goofy way. Though insular and aloof, he is fundamentally kind, if only the right person happens to crack his shell.

The second kind is pejoratively dismissive of conventional social interactions. His social status is moderate to high, not because people enjoy his company, but because he has insinuated his way into a web of professional associations where his influence can not be dismissed lightly. This sort of person would be a straightforward dependable partner and would be impeccably monogamous sexually (because he would dismiss an extramarital affair as stupid and not worth the trouble; not because he necessarily adores his wife), but is precisely the sort of man who would be blamed for taking his wife for granted.

So, ladies, which one of the above is the more appealing to you?
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Old 07-19-2013, 04:08 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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I married a video game addicted guy. Never met a person before who plays so I had no clue.

I dropped his playstation. I dropped his X-box (that was tougher, it took two incidences with concrete floor until it broke) so he moved on to computer war games.

Never ever again. I would NEVER date anybody like this again. I thought it is better to have him sit at home and play games as going out with friends and hanging out in bars (I am a very jealous person).

Well - we couldnt go anywhere for long because he had to rush home to play. He got bored quickly at whatever else we did instead and needed to go back home to play. He couldnt do ANYTHING useful at home because he was too tied up with PLAYING. Day and night. Weekdays and weeknights, weekends. I went to bed alone every night because he had to stay up longer to PLAY. I am just glad he still went to work.

NEVER EVER AGAIN. EVER.
I don't blame you. I wouldn't date anybody with addictions.

But this doesn't have much to do with being a nerd. It has to do with a propensity for addictive behavior.
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Old 07-19-2013, 04:17 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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This is a good occasion to distinguish between two kinds of nerds:

The first kind is the pop-culture, media type of nerd. Star Trek, Star Wars, Star whatever… costumes, role-playing games, first-person-shooter video games. The person may or may not be adroit with computer programming, but his (and typically it’s a “he”) job entails bench-level technical work, such as being the systems-administrator or help-desk guy.

The second kind is the college professor or research-lab senior scientist, who really never writes code himself, but instead delegates the task to more junior people. Such a person prefers the symphony orchestra to thematic conventions, and never dresses in costumes or plays video games, dismissing such avocations as sophomoric and inane.

The first time is clueless and typically of low social status, but is adorable in a goofy way. Though insular and aloof, he is fundamentally kind, if only the right person happens to crack his shell.

The second kind is pejoratively dismissive of conventional social interactions. His social status is moderate to high, not because people enjoy his company, but because he has insinuated his way into a web of professional associations where his influence can not be dismissed lightly. This sort of person would be a straightforward dependable partner and would be impeccably monogamous sexually (because he would dismiss an extramarital affair as stupid and not worth the trouble; not because he necessarily adores his wife), but is precisely the sort of man who would be blamed for taking his wife for granted.

So, ladies, which one of the above is the more appealing to you?
I think there are as many "types of nerd" as their are people with opinions about such things. Nerdy is in the eye of the beholder, ultimately.

Personally, I don't fault people for niche interests, though I would prefer that they're open to things outside their niche interests. I'm not big on developing relationships with people with very poor social skills, though, whether or not their personal interests and pursuits are deemed nerdy or not. Socially impaired is socially impaired, and not the easiest to deal with, in terms of relationships.
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Old 07-19-2013, 08:48 PM
 
Location: Pa
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This is a good occasion to distinguish between two kinds of nerds:

The first kind is the pop-culture, media type of nerd. Star Trek, Star Wars, Star whatever… costumes, role-playing games, first-person-shooter video games. The person may or may not be adroit with computer programming, but his (and typically it’s a “he”) job entails bench-level technical work, such as being the systems-administrator or help-desk guy.

The second kind is the college professor or research-lab senior scientist, who really never writes code himself, but instead delegates the task to more junior people. Such a person prefers the symphony orchestra to thematic conventions, and never dresses in costumes or plays video games, dismissing such avocations as sophomoric and inane.

The first time is clueless and typically of low social status, but is adorable in a goofy way. Though insular and aloof, he is fundamentally kind, if only the right person happens to crack his shell.

The second kind is pejoratively dismissive of conventional social interactions. His social status is moderate to high, not because people enjoy his company, but because he has insinuated his way into a web of professional associations where his influence can not be dismissed lightly. This sort of person would be a straightforward dependable partner and would be impeccably monogamous sexually (because he would dismiss an extramarital affair as stupid and not worth the trouble; not because he necessarily adores his wife), but is precisely the sort of man who would be blamed for taking his wife for granted.

So, ladies, which one of the above is the more appealing to you?
Which are you?
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Old 07-19-2013, 08:59 PM
 
Location: Up in the air
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Some gamers are like that... and it's sad. Video games are their life and they center their lives around it. But you know, any man addicted to anything is no fun whether it be video games, sporting events, TV, etc.
I agree...I do believe there is a line for many people. I feel a guy who plans his life around WoW raids is no different than guys who HAVE to get to the gym 7 days a week to work out. It's just a different obsession.

I don't necessarily think I'm obsessed, but I do go to Cons and I've done Cosplay in the past. I actually plan on taking a road trip to NY ComiCon in October where I'm planning a Mad Moxxi cosplay.

So...I'd love to have a guy who was into the same 'nerdy' pursuits so I would have a partner to attend these things with instead of going alone or with friends who aren't really interested.
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Old 07-19-2013, 09:23 PM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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Would you date someone who likes science, comics and movies like X-men, Fantastic 4, Avengers, etc? Whom is obsessive about computers? Bronies? Playing video games? Plays board games?
Liking these things is no problem. I am nerdy about some things as well. But life revolves around video games .... no thanks.

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This person can be a good guy and hold a good job. A great thinker. But usually aren't too street smart(about the social norms of every day life).

Could you date a person like this?
I don't equate street and social smarts.

Social smarts are a must. Street smarts can be taught.
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Old 07-19-2013, 09:26 PM
 
Location: NoVa
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Absolutely!
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Old 07-19-2013, 09:31 PM
 
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having a real choice between a potential GF or video games, i'd choose the potential GF every time.

I can't believe there's people out there who would actually choose a game over doing stuff with a woman.

Well..Now that I gave it some thought, yeah I can and I've seen it happen with a friend I had many moons ago.
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