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Men put themselves in these situations, and stay in them, no matter what red flags are being waved, for only one reason.....a hot female. Whether it's because they don't think they can do better, or are just overly stimulated by her physical properties, the bottom line is that men ignore common thinking when a woman's "hoo hoo" is the guy's "best ever". I can understand when a guy meets a woman, and leaves because she shows abusive qualities. I don't understand when a man stays and continually takes the abuse. IMO, that guy is an idiot, and deserves what he gets.
That's pretty cold.
I imagine men stay in abusive relationships for the same reasons women do. I don't think anyone deserves to be abused.
Why couldn't they get divorced and get custody of the kids?
Exactly! It helps nobody to keep a dysfunctional family together. It may, in fact, impact the kids adversely, and continue the cycle of abuse to the next generation.
In response to the OP, yes abuse towards either gender is real, but those emerging Men's Groups, at their core ultra-conservative, and mentally stuck in the 1950s, do nothing but rile up a section of men who may (temporarily) be vulnerable, emotionally not stable, or just not intelligent enough to adapt to changes in culture and society. They may have good women at their hands, but when conflict emerges (as it always does in any relationship), these men may overreact, misinterpret, sling labels, and flee the relationship, instead of properly differentiating between Internet wisdom and the individual at hand.
Those who are truly abused may find very little solace in such groups. Sure, it may initially soothe the pain, but sooner or later, the real and deeper issue will rear its ugly head, and force you to take action of some sort. And in more times than not, there is a contribution of oneself when you stay in a toxic relationship longer than necessary. This applies to both men and women.
Men put themselves in these situations, and stay in them, no matter what red flags are being waved, for only one reason.....a hot female. Whether it's because they don't think they can do better, or are just overly stimulated by her physical properties, the bottom line is that men ignore common thinking when a woman's "hoo hoo" is the guy's "best ever". I can understand when a guy meets a woman, and leaves because she shows abusive qualities. I don't understand when a man stays and continually takes the abuse. IMO, that guy is an idiot, and deserves what he gets.
The more you post here the more it's obvious that you hate other men with a passion. Do they threaten you in some way?
What do you think about it? Is male abuse a real thing? I invite both women and men to weigh in.
(I have a feeling life might do some crazy thing to me now that I'm saying this. I told someone once that I felt lucky that I didn't have wisdom teeth. Sure enough one ruptured through my gums over the next couple of days I said that.)
I consider myself lucky to have never experienced a full on abusive relationship but I have gone through some kind of thing where the person I was "friends" with seemed to be a little controlling. I mean she only called when she needed something like a dust pan or a bandage. (Of all the people to call when they just slit their wrists it had to be me. That pretty mush ended it for me. Its also a very long story that I'm not going to get into.)
Anyway, what do you think? I understand that there are people (both male and female) out there who can be cruel.
I've seen far more abusive women out there than men (though, not usually physically abusive). Our society encourages such behavior.
Men put themselves in these situations, and stay in them, no matter what red flags are being waved, for only one reason.....a hot female. Whether it's because they don't think they can do better, or are just overly stimulated by her physical properties, the bottom line is that men ignore common thinking when a woman's "hoo hoo" is the guy's "best ever". I can understand when a guy meets a woman, and leaves because she shows abusive qualities. I don't understand when a man stays and continually takes the abuse. IMO, that guy is an idiot, and deserves what he gets.
One can say the same about women that get abused. You would never say that though, now would you?
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