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I apologize if this seems like a weird early post but I have a simple question attached to a weird happening and didn't know where to put it.
A japanese girl came to romania 2 days ago to visit a friend she has here. She's never been to romania before and I went to drive her from the airport. I know her friend but she couldn't come because she had a night shift. So I went to the airport and the plane came at 1:00 AM, she knew I'd be waiting so it wasn't a problem finding her.
Anyway, we went in the car and started driving. Everything was good, we were talking, she seemed very interested in our culture since she was never outside Japan (talking in english obviously).
The awkward thing happened after a few minutes of driving thru a forest when she said "Do you know that japanese girl that was killed here a few months ago". At that moment I remembered that about 6 months ago a japanese girl was taken from the airport by a guy pretending to be a taxi driver, driven into the woods and raped/tortured/killed. And needless to say I fealt really awkward at that moment since I'm a romanian guy driving an asian girl thru the forest at midnight and she just happens to mention a dead japanese girl.
And I would have kept quiet about it but she quicly realized what I was thinking and started apologizing and then I apologised for making her think I thought that and so on. And it was weird. There was an air of silence all the way to the destination after that. We both tried to start a new conversation but didn't quite work. It wasn't like I was upset or she was upset or anything like that, just that it was weird.
I'm writing this because next week I'm supposed to take her back to the airport and I am a little worried because I don't know if I should mention it again, or let it go ( I'm thinking of letting it go) but what if there is the same awkward feeling again, then should I mention it? I don't quite know.
She was not too afraid to drive with you the first time, she should be even less afraid when you bring her back.
I think she was just thinking about the story and the similarity. Interesting that she knew what happen in Romania 6 months ago. Not that Romanian news are all over the world. Maybe she knew that girl?
You could ease the situation by redirecting her mind and talk about her plans and places to see in Romania. Not just letting her sit and dwell on that...
On the way back just talk about her experiences in Romania - how she liked her visit and such.
She was just curious to know if you were going to turn her into a lampshade.
Since you didn't, she may not assume it's going to happen on the way out of the country.
Thanks for the warning about getting into taxis at the airport. I've heard there's a similar problem at Moscow airport. The way I've always dealt with that sort of thing is to push past all the taxi drivers and look around the parking lot. There's usually a pensioner alone with his car, away from the crowd. Those guys are cheaper, and they're safe.
Anyway, I think that since you were safe the first time, she won't have a problem with you the 2nd time. She might even laugh and apologize again, and you two will be fine.
^^^ I never heard any such stories about taxi drivers in Moscow, or anywhere else. Bad or weird people are everywhere
Back to OP:
you are not just some taxi driver - you are sent by her friend, so she should trust you.
I still think she was just curious, or maybe just too tired to have a conversation...
Can you talk to her sometime before the day she is leaving?
Just say, 'Hey, would you like a ride back to the airport? Or do you have other plans?'
This will clue her in that she better make another plan if she doesn't want to ride with you . Or give her a chance to clear the air with you, or whatever she wants to do.
Show her that you care what she wants, and respect her freedom of choice, and are not just assuming she wants to go with you. Those are the opposite of rape and murder .
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I would be worried too if I were her. I don't think the trip from the airport to the capital takes you through any forest...
It sounds very Hansel and Gretel, doesn't it?
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. Or give her a chance to clear the air with you, or whatever she wants to do. 
