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Aloha, just had coffee with my friend, thought i would update you. My friend looks like his old self again. He told me that he has a date for next weekend. I was happy for him, good guy.
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A friend came to me for some advice today and knew i was on this forum, so he asked me to start a thread for him. My friend loves his girlfriend but her family doesn't like him. The girl seems to pick her family over my friend, and my friend doesn't want to lose her but gets annoyed because of her family. What should he do? I will give you what i said to him later. Has anyone been thru this? what happened and what did you do? Advise?
Why does the family not like him, is there some reason he gave them? Or, is it just a case of nobody is good enough for their daughter, so, they automatically dislike whoever she dates?
My ex continually put the needs of his parents before my needs and the needs of our marriage. If there was a difference of opinion of any kind, he sided with them. ranging from where to eat dinner to what color of paint to put on MY walls. When we had kids they became my leverage...because their needs outweighed those of his parents (most of the time) and his parents were conscious of that and more likely to lend me a helping hand.
He was mortified when we got divorced because...what would his parents think?
He is now getting married again...LOL...to the daughter of his parents' best friends. He proposed to her in front of both extended families. Desperate to regain their approval.
Bottom line, whatever their age, your friend and his GF are not ready for a committed relationship. He should move on.
No matter what the situation is children should never be referred to as "leverage".
Why does the family not like him, is there some reason he gave them? Or, is it just a case of nobody is good enough for their daughter, so, they automatically dislike whoever she dates?
I believe its a case of no good enough for there daughter. They wantted someone who was more successful.
My ex-FIL was old school Japanese and liked to shout, after he had a few sakes, that I was "too mouthy and did not repect my husband" As if a drunken, womanizer, and abuser warrants respect. Yes, I eventually got a clue by four and peaced out of that marriage.
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As if a drunken, womanizer, and abuser warrants respect. Yes, I eventually got a clue by four and peaced out of that marriage. 
