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Old 08-01-2013, 10:25 AM
 
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If you do this , then i will love you.
If you buy me gifts , then i will love you.
If you earn this amont of money , then i will love you.
If you emotionaly support me , then i will love you.

And so on. Love come with all sorts of conditions.
But why ?
Why can't we love without expectations ?
Why can't we love without conditions ?
For me , love means sacrifice. But i don't believe in conditional love nor i think its true or real love.

That is why i don't belive in Love at all. Putting conditions on love ?? Blah. I would rather live single all my life.

Sorry for my english. It is not my first language.
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Old 08-01-2013, 10:50 AM
 
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I don't put conditions on love, but I do have expectations in a relationship.

I still love my ex-husband, but the love wasn't strong enough for me to put up with his issues.

I sacrifice for my current husband, because he's worth it. He makes me his #1 priority, he respects me, he treats me like a queen and he's a great father. When he was out of work for two years, I was supportive and encouraging.

I don't like the term "unconditional love" because that means you are willing to put up with anything. Abuse? Treating my kids poorly? Sorry, no.
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Old 08-01-2013, 11:44 AM
 
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I don't like the term "unconditional love" because that means you are willing to put up with anything. Abuse? Treating my kids poorly? Sorry, no.
Agree.

OP, what you are describing is not 'conditional love'. It's lying.

No-one can predict or plan love. Anytime someone tells you that they do not love you now, but they will love you in the future (with or without things you have to do in the meantime), they are lying to you.
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Old 08-01-2013, 11:45 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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For someone who doesn't believe in love - you certainly seem obsessed with it.
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Old 08-01-2013, 11:49 AM
 
Location: Arizona
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If you do this , then i will love you.
If you buy me gifts , then i will love you.
If you earn this amont of money , then i will love you.
If you emotionaly support me , then i will love you.

And so on. Love come with all sorts of conditions.
But why ?
Why can't we love without expectations ?
Why can't we love without conditions ?
For me , love means sacrifice. But i don't believe in conditional love nor i think its true or real love.

That is why i don't belive in Love at all. Putting conditions on love ?? Blah. I would rather live single all my life.

Sorry for my english. It is not my first language.
I agree with you! In the beginning of finding someone we want to find someone who meets our "conditions". However I think as a relationship grows most of those conditions become irrelevant. We put wayyyy to much emphasis on meeting "that perfect person".
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Old 08-01-2013, 11:53 AM
 
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Unconditional or puppy love is the BEST love. However, when one side derails, the other side have to test the derailed one on conditions. It's only through the meeting of these conditions and the sacrifices the derailed one has to go through that the relationship goes back to unconditional love.
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Old 08-01-2013, 12:28 PM
 
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For someone who doesn't believe in love - you certainly seem obsessed with it.
not obessed . Just don't know why people overrate love and relationship.
I live alone and don't get why people even fall in love and then put conditions on love.
It don't make any sense at all.
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Old 08-01-2013, 12:30 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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not obessed . Just don't know why people overrate love and relationship.
I live alone and don't get why people even fall in love and then put conditions on love.
It don't make any sense at all.
Because real love can be the most wonderful feeling in the world. If it doesn't make any sense to you - maybe you simply aren't capable of it. That's fine. Just do what makes you happy.
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Old 08-01-2013, 12:40 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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If you do this , then i will love you.
If you buy me gifts , then i will love you.
If you earn this amont of money , then i will love you.
If you emotionaly support me , then i will love you.

And so on. Love come with all sorts of conditions.
But why ?
Why can't we love without expectations ?
Why can't we love without conditions ?
For me , love means sacrifice. But i don't believe in conditional love nor i think its true or real love.

That is why i don't belive in Love at all. Putting conditions on love ?? Blah. I would rather live single all my life.

Sorry for my english. It is not my first language.
Mutual emotional support is one thing love is all about. Generosity is also a natural expression of love. That may not involve gift-giving, depending on someone's budget. It could involve other types of gestures; taking the time and thought to be helpful in various ways, planning modest outings, etc.
Are you talking about love, or sex?
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Old 08-01-2013, 12:46 PM
 
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
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Originally Posted by Misterunit View Post
If you do this , then i will love you.
If you buy me gifts , then i will love you.
If you earn this amont of money , then i will love you.
If you emotionaly support me , then i will love you.

And so on. Love come with all sorts of conditions.
But why ?
Why can't we love without expectations ?
Why can't we love without conditions ?
For me , love means sacrifice. But i don't believe in conditional love nor i think its true or real love.

That is why i don't belive in Love at all. Putting conditions on love ?? Blah. I would rather live single all my life.

Sorry for my english. It is not my first language.
All relationships involve transactions between partners in which they exchange goods and services to their mutual benefit. I want sex; she wants conservation. There's a saying in Denmark that you can't have good sex with a guy you can't talk with. (This is just an example of just one kind of transaction).
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