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Take it from me girl, stop loaning this guy money. Learn from my mistakes before this gets even more expen$ive for you. Do you think he'll actually ever pay you back any of what you've lent him?
He is using you, and, you know it. I would imagine that he is doing more than weed. He has loser written all over him. Move on, you are too young to be wasting your time with him.
I really do consider myself a responsible person. At 24 I saved up money to move to NYC and secured a job. In the midst of that I have a boyfriend that is a little older than me (32). So far I have loaned him $600 while living here and that was tough to do especially before I found a job and had to pay for moving expenses. He works as a security at a club but can barely manage to pull his own weight. He has the opportunity to get another part time during the day or full time but whenever we discuss this he says he will do it and when I go over his house I find that he hasn't done anything other than pass out, clean up a little and smoke weed (which he does everyday). I'm making him sound bad already but in the end he's a good guy (sometimes) we have our other issues. Not to mention I feel he's controlling and just not someone I want to be in a relationship with and it's even more of a turn off when I keep loaning him money that I barely have.
I gave him $100 to cover his utility bill that he hasn't even paid for 3 months and I just find that really irresponsible! He's also in a huge amount of debt from speeding tickets and other things and I'm coming to the age where I'm thinking long term. I don't need a rich boyfriend or husband but I do want someone that is fiscally responsible with their money. How we will buy a house or anything if their credit is bad? I'm just thinking long term but it's starting to get to me. I feel at his age he needs to get it together and whenever I try to help him he yells at me saying "I know what I'm doing!" or something else so I'm just on a limb here
So wait op, are you giving him money which he wont have to payback, or are you lending him money which he has to pay back in the same value or are you loaning him money which he has ro pay you back in interest?
The hard, fast rule is: Don't loan money to anyone unless you are prepared to lose it.
(And if you don't want to lose it, have them sign a promissory note.)
Stay with him. That way you'll have a 32 year old little boy who is already potty trained. And, as a bonus, you get to skip morning sickness, stretch marks, hormone imbalances, back aches, and all the other good stuff that goes with pregnancy. What you have is a little boy. I think what you are looking for is a man.
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