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I don't think I've ever dated someone with out knowing how old they were. Honestly, I don't think I would have wanted to date someone with that big of an age gap unless it was just for fun.
You can call it what you whatever you want - but like you said, you are not the same person now that you were when you were 20. I'm still a very bubbly, young at heart person but I'm certainly more mature at 37 than I was at 22. I handle situations better. I'm more comfortable with who I am. I'm better at taking responsibility for my actions. I would call that being more mature. I don't think your taste in music or wanting to be happy is the same thing as maturity.
I agree , but at the same time in many ways I am the same person. People keep saying "maturity level" as if my core being of who I am is suppose to be different now.
A person 50 or 60 still wants to have fun (I hope), just like a 20 year old. This supposed society trying to dictate to a older person just what their fun is suppose to be is what irks me. If I went to party that was a bunch of college or 21 year olds in general terms I probably wouldn't relate to them in ways that's true. However to say because I am 46 I should no longer want to party and get a little loud or carefree and that I should act "old" is ridiculous.
I take very good care of myself. I either run and workout at the gym or go running with a cousin. Ran three miles yesterday. I neither drink nor smoke. I have a full head of hair with just a little gray. The guy sounds like a first class douche.
Yeah, taking care of yourself keeps your body younger inside and out. Running is great... I am terrible at it. I am a swimmer though, I can swim 3 miles
And that guy was a jerk for sure. I mean, if he wanted someone younger because he wanted to start a family and space it out and all... that makes sense to me and I wouldn't hold that against him. It's a biological luxury men have. But he didn't want to start a family and he seemed very in to me until I corrected him on my age. Then his whole demeanor changed and he proceeded to insult me until the check came. Then he tried to french kiss me in the parking lot on my way back to my car. Maybe your word is better than mine... douche.
[quote=Dewdrop93;30863641]I don't think I've ever dated someone with out knowing how old they were. Honestly, I don't think I would have wanted to date someone with that big of an age gap unless it was just for fun.
So you always ask a guy his age right away?
Most women dont age well. Up to a point they can date younger men. Later they have to settle for some one closer or older than them. Women my age look like they could be my mother. Smoking, drinking, tanning beds, too much sun takes its tool.
I don't think I've ever dated someone with out knowing how old they were. Honestly, I don't think I would have wanted to date someone with that big of an age gap unless it was just for fun.
So you always ask a guy his age right away?
When I was dating - pretty much. Most of the guys I dated I met in college or through work. I met my husband when I was 25. If I were dating now - at 37 - maybe I wouldn't always know the age of people I was dating - but in my early 20's? Yeah, I did. The age range in the OP is fairly broad, too. 22-32. If I was dating at 32, I would have been looking for different things than I did at 22. But still, ideally, I don't think I would have ever wanted to settle down with someone 20 years older than me.
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Yeah, taking care of yourself keeps your body younger inside and out. Running is great... I am terrible at it. I am a swimmer though, I can swim 3 miles
And that guy was a jerk for sure. I mean, if he wanted someone younger because he wanted to start a family and space it out and all... that makes sense to me and I wouldn't hold that against him. It's a biological luxury men have. But he didn't want to start a family and he seemed very in to me until I corrected him on my age. Then his whole demeanor changed and he proceeded to insult me until the check came. Then he tried to french kiss me in the parking lot on my way back to my car. Maybe your word is better than mine... douche.
First he insults you and then tries to french kiss you? This guy is not only a douche but also a real braintrust.
Most women dont age well. Up to a point they can date younger men. Later they have to settle for some one closer or older than them. Women my age look like they could be my mother. Smoking, drinking, tanning beds, too much sun takes its tool.
Where do you live? Florida? LA? Try anywhere else on the West Coast. Few women are into tanning beds, smoking, and there are quite a few who rarely, if ever, drink. You'd probably think the ones your age are too young for you, if you didn't know their age.
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Where do you live? Florida? LA? Try anywhere else on the West Coast. Few women are into tanning beds, smoking, and there are quite a few who rarely, if ever, drink. You'd probably think the one's your age are too young for you, if you didn't know their age.
Yeah this seems odd. Most of the women I see look younger than the men the same age.
For women from age 23-32, do you prefer men just a few years older (less than 5-6 years older to 1-2 years younger, or men from 35 to 50-55 years old?
I'd prefer someone closer to my age. I can't se myself dating someone much older than 40. I would date younger also, perhaps as young as 21 if he were exceptionally mature. Ultimately, exact age is less significant to me than personal qualities, general compatibility, mutual attraction, etc.
I am 29.
And which do you prefer for casual relationships, dating and marriage? And how does money, looks, sex drive, maturity and chemistry come into the picture?
I don't like casual dating. I tend to only keep dating someone if I see potential for more. So I have one standard across the board.
Money - needs to be responsible & have steady work, able to support himself, not too frugal, but not materialistic
Looks - attractive to me, not fat or bald, but I'm pretty flexible (more of a "vibe" person), well-groomed
Sex drive - doesn't have a porn habit, doesn't objectify women, not bland nor bizarre with unhealthy fixations or hang-ups, not selfish, relatively normal, willing to wait a bit (I'm not one to rush this)
Maturity - emotional maturity is most important, doesn't need to be super serious, but should show thoughtfulness, unselfishness, spirituality, compassion, empathy, etc.
Chemistry - The undefinable "chemistry"! This is important of course. It can be the make or break when it comes to someone who "looks good on paper". Any honest person will admit this has more power than they'd like it to....
Do you prefer an older provider type? A more mature, handsome man? A younger, siller Ashton Kutcher type? Or do you just play it as it goes?
I'm not looking for someone to provide for me materially. I'm more of a "partner in crime" seeker. I don't like that Ashton Kutcher type either. He's annoying to me. I like someone more intellectual and emotionally mature, yes, but still able to be playful.
Do you actively try to go places where older men hangout to meet them? Are you an "old" soul? No, I don't try to meet older men.
I wouldn't call myself an old soul either. People think I am younger than I am because I have a kind of whimsical & naive vibe, but when I was a child I was kind of precociously wise & intellectual. So I don't fit any extreme dichotomy there.
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