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Old 08-14-2013, 08:28 AM
 
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If you didn't have any, how "good" would the marriage really be?

For example what happens if you aren't friends OR you don't have sufficient "benefits" OR you have practical (financial, home economic, "working together", home logistical, life practices, etc) incompatibilities?

What happens to the "love" if those above aren't strong?
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Old 08-14-2013, 08:33 AM
 
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Then its not even a marriage of convenience or functional and that's the bare minimum needed.

Some people are missing these things but stay together for appearances (I.e so the kids and everyone else won't be hurt or to avoid the public embarrassment of divorce). Sometimes one wants to divorce but doesn't want to hurt their spouse so they stay (actually I read this was the #1 reason people don't leave). I wouldn't call that love though.

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Old 08-14-2013, 08:35 AM
 
Location: Geauga County, Ohio
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I don't try to break it down like that. We have a business aspect to our relationship (as managing household finances), we ARE best friends, and lovers too.
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Old 08-14-2013, 08:37 AM
 
Location: Pa
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You are a team.
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Old 08-14-2013, 08:39 AM
 
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Its all intertwined... well except the business stuff which just is. But the love, sex, intimacy, friendship, trust all grow together.
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Old 08-14-2013, 08:39 AM
 
Location: Emerald Coast, FL
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No. A FWB normally has a significant flaw (incompatibility) that precludes a long-term romantic relationship. A business relationship is independent - and it can exist with a spouse, a FWB, or just someone with a skill you need.

A good marriage will mean different things to different people, but to me it means a loving relationship with someone who is highly compatible in all or most ways (and not incompatible in any), including sexually, where both parties actively support the health and happiness of their partner.
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Old 08-14-2013, 11:27 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I don't think I would ever think of my marriage in terms of business or FWB. But that's just me.
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Old 08-14-2013, 11:33 AM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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I don't think I would ever think of my marriage in terms of business or FWB. But that's just me.
It's NOT just you

Sad how many here really are clueless about what a good marriage looks like.
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Old 08-14-2013, 12:07 PM
 
Location: Whereever we have our RV parked
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In a good marriage its about "We." Its about our health and well being, our enjoyment of sex, our finances. If my wife is ill, it should be a serious concern of mine also. Maybe she needs to see a doctor, so I make sure she goes or I take her if necessary. Its not her house, we mutually agree on decor, location, size etc.
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Old 08-14-2013, 12:29 PM
 
Location: Geauga County, Ohio
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In a good marriage its about "We." Its about our health and well being, our enjoyment of sex, our finances. If my wife is ill, it should be a serious concern of mine also. Maybe she needs to see a doctor, so I make sure she goes or I take her if necessary. Its not her house, we mutually agree on decor, location, size etc.

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