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Old 08-16-2013, 05:38 AM
 
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You're not going to like this but you need some waking up.

1. Your boyfriend has taken pictures and/or video of you while having sex. Not might, not maybe, he absolutely positively did. Anything else is you might think is a lie you're telling yourself to avoid the pain of facing up to number 2.

2. Your boyfriend is a piece of schit. Taking video/pictures of an intimate moment without the explicit permission of your partner is a betrayal of trust. Lying about it makes it worse. These things speak directly to the character of your boyfriend and if he was willing to go behind your back and do this and then lie you can expect more to come because schit really does stink.

3. While he was taking either a picture(s) or video even if he wasn't he is still a piece of schit for doing anything with his phone as Lilac and others pointed out on page one. I can tell you being old I've had plenty of oral sex and never was any partner so bad that I decided to take my phone out and play a game of sudoku. Even if such a girl exists who really was that awful I still wouldn't out of plain old respect and yes, you deserve respect.

3. You cannot control what happened to such pictures/video, how you got this idea into your head I have no idea. Even if your boyfriend is not internet savvy if he sent the video out chances are good it went to someone who is and you have no control whatsoever with what they or the people they in turn send it to will do with it. There is no controlling data and you will never know if or who he sent it to because your boyfriend is a lying piece of schit.

I'm not trying to be cruel but I'm a father and you are lying to yourself and your rationalizations will not change the reality you face. If not this it will be the next thing, its just a matter of recognizing him for what he is and you will flush this turd. I'm sorry.

 
Old 08-16-2013, 05:56 AM
 
Location: The Old Dominion
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i wouldnt interrupt a bj if the house was on fire...
True story, it happened to me. Not just a house but the whole apartment building. And I was close, and it was mighty frustrating I can tell you. /tmi

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Word to the unwise...and please do just think long and hard about this....
You totally did not just say that.
 
Old 08-16-2013, 07:06 AM
 
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How come everybody thinks it's so god damn easy to just "dump the jerk"?Nobody said it would be easy.
If any of you have ever been in a relationship (especially a long one) you should probably know how it's not so simple to just "dump" the person you've spend the past 2 years with, being in his house, going on vacations, having him by your side all the time and building a future together...Nope, but people go through this every day.
I mean, we're not talking about a guy I met at a bar yesterday and had a one night stand with...
If that was the case , A. I'd never allow him to get near his phone. And B. if he did...he'd be learning how to fly when I throw him out the window.

We broke up once before and I spend those few weeks crying my eyes out and wanting to kill myself,Suicidal thoughts are not normal behavior, even in relationships that last longer than two whole years. To avoid breaking up with a loser because you don't want to feel suicidal again has nothing to do with the relationship and everything to do with you needing real help. I don't know what about you guys but I really don't feel like doing that again. Especially since I don't have any proof.
The fact that you are making so many excuses for a man who treats you so badly is a sign you've got very little self worth. You remind me of myself in my college years, dating a-holes who kicked me while I was down. I had the whole suicidal thing too. I got myself into therapy because I just couldn't take it anymore and now I'm dating a man who respects me, I promise you that it's worth it.

And yes, I left a man I dated for 4 years and got over it. 1 year a few times and gotten over it. YOU WILL GET OVER IT. Stop making excuses. Did you expect us all to tell you it's ok and to trust him? You really must be very young to be so trusting of so many people in such blatantly shady situations. I'm saying this with care too, not putting you down, but you need to wake up soon. What will be your "bottom"? Will it be this guy setting you up on live stream on a website?

And girl, if you think it's acceptable for any man to pick up his phone during an intimate moment for any reason whatsoever (barring someone dying), you need to experience better and REAL men. That's baby behavior, a man who has no thoughts except for himself. I do not care WHAT he was doing. STOP MAKING EXCUSES. He clearly has no respect for you, imagine what he can do to you in a few years when he really has you under his thumb.

You're young, what's 2 years? You'll look back and be glad you did it. I refuse to believe you won't.
 
Old 08-16-2013, 07:20 AM
 
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The fact that you are making so many excuses for a man who treats you so badly is a sign you've got very little self worth. You remind me of myself in my college years, dating a-holes who kicked me while I was down. I had the whole suicidal thing too. I got myself into therapy because I just couldn't take it anymore and now I'm dating a man who respects me, I promise you that it's worth it.

And yes, I left a man I dated for 4 years and got over it. 1 year a few times and gotten over it. YOU WILL GET OVER IT. Stop making excuses. Did you expect us all to tell you it's ok and to trust him? You really must be very young to be so trusting of so many people in such blatantly shady situations. I'm saying this with care too, not putting you down, but you need to wake up soon. What will be your "bottom"? Will it be this guy setting you up on live stream on a website?

And girl, if you think it's acceptable for any man to pick up his phone during an intimate moment for any reason whatsoever (barring someone dying), you need to experience better and REAL men. That's baby behavior, a man who has no thoughts except for himself. I do not care WHAT he was doing. STOP MAKING EXCUSES. He clearly has no respect for you, imagine what he can do to you in a few years when he really has you under his thumb.

You're young, what's 2 years? You'll look back and be glad you did it. I refuse to believe you won't.
Omg cause he took a video? It isn't like he was cheating on her.

Op. Talk to him about it. Seriously. Ita not the end of the world.

If the women of cd had their way, women should leave their over ANYTHING.

Why do you think there are so many adult and grown women with children that obsess over drama here and spend FAR TOO MUCH TIME here?

Omg he took a video! About a 99% chance he just wants to use it ti watch to get off when your not around! Feel blessed he'd rather do that than look at porn!

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Old 08-16-2013, 07:27 AM
 
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Omg cause he took a video? It isn't like he was cheating on her.

Op. Talk to him about it. Seriously. Ita not the end of the world.

If the women of cd had their way, women should leave their over ANYTHING.

Why do you think there are so many adult and grown women with children that obsess over drama here and spend FAR TOO MUCH TIME here?

Omg he took a video! About a 99% chance he just wants to use it ti watch to get off when your not around! Feel blessed he'd rather do that than look at porn!

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You're a pig. That's what you are. People are jumping on you in your last thread because it was way too easy to come to those conclusions. You're 19 year old girlfriend will smarten up when she becomes a woman too.

And no, not all of us leave quickly. That's just in CD world. Judging by your post here and your previous, you live in a fantasy world where women are submissive, empty bodies that exist solely to please their men.

I don't care if my SO watches porn. I know he does it. Most women also look too, at least once or twice. That has nothing to do with betraying the trust of an intimate sexual act. A self professed "sex addict", I don't expect you to understand the emotions that go behind sex for a woman who feels she is truly in love with someone, and giving them their trust. You don't understand adult relationships, and neither does your 19 year old girlfriend.

If the world was your way, women would have no self worth. Go back to the gym.
 
Old 08-16-2013, 07:43 AM
 
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You're 19 year old girlfriend will smarten up when she becomes a woman too.
Your*

Sounds like you're the one that needs to smarten up..





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Old 08-16-2013, 07:46 AM
 
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Your*

Sounds like you're the one that needs to smarten up..





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I can learn to double check my grammar before hitting submit, but you're still a pig.
 
Old 08-16-2013, 07:49 AM
 
Location: My House
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Your*

Sounds like you're the one that needs to smarten up..





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That's your witty retort?

Work on that, man.


As far as the OP is concerned, I dunno why this leap was made to "dump him!"

He may not have considered the ramifications of his actions. He may well have done it to watch later. But, he disrespected her by doing it without her permission.

It isn't the video. It is the lack of respect.

But, maybe this has not occurred to him.

I vote for a demand to see the video. Don't ask him if he shot it. Tell him you already know he shot it. Tell him you saw part of it already, and that the two of you need to talk about why doing that without your permission was not okay.

Then, based on his behavior? Make some choices about whether this relationship is good for you.
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Old 08-16-2013, 08:00 AM
 
Location: NYC
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Omg cause he took a video? It isn't like he was cheating on her.

Op. Talk to him about it.
she tried and he lied straight to her face

it's a scumbag move, i can't see why anyone would defend him
 
Old 08-16-2013, 08:13 AM
 
Location: My House
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she tried and he lied straight to her face

it's a scumbag move, i can't see why anyone would defend him
Well, ok. This thread is long. I missed that.

I'd call him on that lie. No can deal with some ******* who'd videotape me giving him a BJ without my permission.
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