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One could spend a few minutes throughly reading someones profile. The write out a full thought out message (3 minutes):
"Hi, I see you like to cook, and you enjoy sushi. I cook as well, as I have been cooking since I was 9. I like long walks on the beach and the smell of fresh cut grass. I see you are a hockey fan, were those playoffs not the most insane hockey you have ever seen ? "
And then.... crickets.
Annnnnnnd they disnt even read the message, they spend 2 seconds looking at your picture, and DELETE. Not even a profile review.
"Hi, how are you?" is a conversation starter.
When you are in public, how do you create conversation? please don't tell me you compliment their scarf or jacket or shoes....
A simple hello is typically enough. If a woman is interested, she reciprocates, if she isnt, she doesn't reciprocate.
Online conversation starting is the same way. I know guys that don't even say 'hi' online. They wink or send a
And these guys get dates all the time.
Your level of frustration is a lil high. Hopefully your profile doesnt list 'easy going' as a trait. No offense, but from your posts, you are closer to the opposite of easy going, at least on this forum.
One could spend a few minutes throughly reading someones profile. The write out a full thought out message (3 minutes):
"Hi, I see you like to cook, and you enjoy sushi. I cook as well, as I have been cooking since I was 9. I like long walks on the beach and the smell of fresh cut grass. I see you are a hockey fan, were those playoffs not the most insane hockey you have ever seen ? "
And then.... crickets.
Annnnnnnd they disnt even read the message, they spend 2 seconds looking at your picture, and DELETE. Not even a profile review.
"Hi, how are you?" is a conversation starter.
When you are in public, how do you create conversation? please don't tell me you compliment their scarf or jacket or shoes....
A simple hello is typically enough. If a woman is interested, she reciprocates, if she isnt, she doesn't reciprocate.
Online conversation starting is the same way. I know guys that don't even say 'hi' online. They wink or send a
And these guys get dates all the time.
Your level of frustration is a lil high. Hopefully your profile doesnt list 'easy going' as a trait. No offense, but from your posts, you are closer to the opposite of easy going, at least on this forum.
IMO when you get a message like that it is often either:
(A) This person has nothing in common with me, but maybe wants to hook up
or
(B) This person is missing a piece of their brain
Quote:
Originally Posted by RockJock1729
I never knew if it was because they really didn't know what to say, or they couldn't be bothered to try.
I've often gotten the opening line quoted by OP
in initial messages at online dating sites.
I can't figure out what it's indicative of, for sure.
Not caring enough to look at what I wrote, uninterested because they're only seeking sex ?
I'm ISO new friends and/or a long-term relationship, *not* a hook-up.
It seems the epitome of empty small talk, could not this person read my profile & pick *something* ?
I do read profiles, and when I msg. a guy I always choose something from what he wrote to bring up.
One could spend a few minutes throughly reading someones profile. The write out a full thought out message (3 minutes):
"Hi, I see you like to cook, and you enjoy sushi. I cook as well, as I have been cooking since I was 9. I like long walks on the beach and the smell of fresh cut grass. I see you are a hockey fan, were those playoffs not the most insane hockey you have ever seen ? "
And then.... crickets.
Annnnnnnd they disnt even read the message, they spend 2 seconds looking at your picture, and DELETE. Not even a profile review.
"Hi, how are you?" is a conversation starter.
When you are in public, how do you create conversation? please don't tell me you compliment their scarf or jacket or shoes....
A simple hello is typically enough. If a woman is interested, she reciprocates, if she isnt, she doesn't reciprocate.
Online conversation starting is the same way. I know guys that don't even say 'hi' online. They wink or send a
And these guys get dates all the time.
Your level of frustration is a lil high. Hopefully your profile doesnt list 'easy going' as a trait. No offense, but from your posts, you are closer to the opposite of easy going, at least on this forum.
Hi, How are you is better suited to meeting someone in public not on the computer. And that's because you will get a instant "i;m fine and you? .
I don't want a "I"M FINE AND YOU sent back to me online
I've often gotten the opening line quoted by OP
in initial messages at online dating sites.
I can't figure out what it's indicative of, for sure.
Not caring enough to look at what I wrote, uninterested because they're only seeking sex ?
I'm ISO new friends and/or a long-term relationship, *not* a hook-up.
It seems the epitome of empty small talk, could not this person read my profile & pick *something* ?
I do read profiles, and when I msg. a guy I always choose something from what he wrote to bring up.
It's confirmation that they like your picture and want to get to know you but I still don't like it
Between some people that are scared to meet men in public places, and some people that cant tolerate "Hi, how are you?" as a conversation starter, I am really beginning to understand why online dating is such a struggle. I am guessing that at least half of the people dating online shouldnt even be online dating. If you don't like online dating, then. get. offline. it's scary, nerve-wracking, and tedious. And if you cant handle that, then stop wasting the peoples time who can handle it.
Hi, How are you is better suited to meeting someone in public not on the computer. And that's because you will get a instant "i;m fine and you? .
I don't want a "I"M FINE AND YOU sent back to me online
It's starting to remind me of a recent thread in Non Romantic Rels section
about greeting people in public (like cashiers or passing acquaintances)
and the whole perfunctory/obligatory/formal ritual of having to say:
"Hi how are you"
"I'm fine, how are you"
"Fine and..." Aargh !
This is online dating, I'm trying to get to know this person,
and I hope they're trying to get to know me as a person,
because I'm not interested in a generic exchange of messages-
a ONS/NSA is *not* at all what I'm "up for" or "down with" or whatever.
I think if the 'Hi, How are you?' came from someone I actually had something in common with or came from someone with a profile that didn't look like a 13 year old girl wrote it I was far more apt to reply.
As it was, 99% of the 'Hi, how are you' (or rather 'hi, how r u lol') messages came from guys who looked like they were in a gang or had absolutely NOTHING in common with me at all.
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