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Old 08-15-2013, 12:48 PM
 
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Everyone says it's just a numbers game. That's true, but if you're so disadvantaged that you only have a chance with 1 out of every 100 women you're attracted to, should you even bother? 99 rejections might be worth it if you know the 100th try will yield success, but you never know it will. I'm 0/3 in the dating arena. I've had 3 women I liked and they each turned me down. I had high self-esteem until I tried dating. Really, I did. Never knew that I wasn't attractive to women. Moms need to stop telling their sons that they're handsome and that women will like them if they be a gentleman. Love comes easy to some guys, particularly guys who are good-looking or have money. It's pretty easy to find someone who is the love of your life when every woman is magnetically drawn to you. I laugh at people here who think that having a good personality will make you attractive to women. Off the top of my head, if I had to think of the most personable people I know, none of them do well in the dating world.

If you're not an attractive person, at some point you have to make a decision. You either need to:
  • Learn how to be content without a romantic partner.
  • Continue to look for romantic partners, which takes a lot of time, energy, and can really hurt your self-esteem if you're unsuccessful.

Choose wisely.
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Old 08-15-2013, 01:06 PM
 
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I laugh at defeated men who carry themselves like victims, and think they have to be a 10 in order to get a girlfriend because they got shot down 3 times.

You've been turned down 3 times? Being a sophmore in High School can be tough.
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Old 08-15-2013, 01:08 PM
 
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I laugh at defeated men who carry themselves like victims, and think they have to be a 10 in order to get a girlfriend because they got shot down 3 times.

You've been turned down 3 times? Being a sophmore in High School can be tough.
I'm 24, though.
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Old 08-15-2013, 01:09 PM
 
Location: Up in the air
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Do or do not, there is no try.


Regardless, if you want to give up then give up. Nobody is forcing you to be in a relationship and if you don't want to put forth the effort then find something else to occupy your time.
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Old 08-15-2013, 01:14 PM
 
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being in your 20's and trying to equate "love" with amount of ***** gotten...yup, defiantly a younger point of view

if love is really what you are seeking you should know that doesn't magically happen just because you can get every chick you see.

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Old 08-15-2013, 01:26 PM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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I'm 24, though.
How long have you been trying, though? Zero for 3 means you have had no dates at all ... why not? Why didn't you date in high school? That's roughly 10 years from being a freshman in high school. I was shy to the point of being sullen in junior high, but I went to a few dances and kissed a boy. Boys didn't really notice me until I was a sophomore, and even then the "cool" boys were usually not nice to me because I was still socially awkward and self-conscious, not cool like them. (That awkwardness around the cool crowd never goes away, BTW.) I got a couple of mix tapes and stuff like that from straight-up nerds who tried to talk to me. They weren't intimidated by me.

There's got to be a reason you have not had any dates ever.
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Old 08-15-2013, 01:29 PM
 
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Everyone says it's just a numbers game. That's true, but if you're so disadvantaged that you only have a chance with 1 out of every 100 women you're attracted to, should you even bother? 99 rejections might be worth it if you know the 100th try will yield success, but you never know it will. I'm 0/3 in the dating arena. I've had 3 women I liked and they each turned me down. I had high self-esteem until I tried dating. Really, I did. Never knew that I wasn't attractive to women. Moms need to stop telling their sons that they're handsome and that women will like them if they be a gentleman. Love comes easy to some guys, particularly guys who are good-looking or have money. It's pretty easy to find someone who is the love of your life when every woman is magnetically drawn to you. I laugh at people here who think that having a good personality will make you attractive to women. Off the top of my head, if I had to think of the most personable people I know, none of them do well in the dating world.

If you're not an attractive person, at some point you have to make a decision. You either need to:
  • Learn how to be content without a romantic partner.
  • Continue to look for romantic partners, which takes a lot of time, energy, and can really hurt your self-esteem if you're unsuccessful.

Choose wisely.
Well, pick up your towel and don't quit just yet.

If you say hi to 100 women most will return the greeting. Their reaction to you is what you look at. Does she smile back, tuck her hair behind her ear as she walks by... These are things you look for.

Now...make yourself available. If you said hi to a lady you passed in a store, stop somewhere to allow time to search you out to continue the conversation if she is interested. Like the cd isle or something. Watch for anyone you have already reached out to in saying hi. If she comes up within talking distance struck up a convo with her. "We meet again?" Act like you are happy to see her again.
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Old 08-15-2013, 01:30 PM
 
Location: Geauga County, Ohio
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Three turndowns is nothing.

At 24, I have to ask-when did you start asking women out?
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Old 08-15-2013, 01:31 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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Do or do not, there is no try.


Regardless, if you want to give up then give up. Nobody is forcing you to be in a relationship and if you don't want to put forth the effort then find something else to occupy your time.
Tried to rep ya, Mistress Yoda.

--Dim
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Old 08-15-2013, 01:31 PM
 
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Improve yourself. Study game. Stop whining and do something about it.
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