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Old 08-20-2013, 03:46 PM
 
Location: socal baby
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Just did a quick read of this article. It still sounds slightly one-sided, like she's always right. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for admitting one's errors, but not sure a guy's gotta tame his testicles to keep his marriage.

why is the guy always expected to change? or is my perception wrong?

Beautiful Advice From A Divorced Man After 16 Years Of Marriage - Ned Hardy | Ned Hardy
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Old 08-20-2013, 03:57 PM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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Just did a quick read of this article. It still sounds slightly one-sided, like she's always right. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for admitting one's errors, but not sure a guy's gotta tame his testicles to keep his marriage.

why is the guy always expected to change? or is my perception wrong?

Beautiful Advice From A Divorced Man After 16 Years Of Marriage - Ned Hardy | Ned Hardy
I thought some of these were good advice and a few really resonated with me, but the list was too long and became a sermon. I did think it sounded too worshipful near the end so I quit reading.
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Old 08-20-2013, 04:02 PM
 
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Pretty much all of the things in that link can address women, too. I don't see where any of it needs to be gender-specific, but that some men need to hear it from other men.
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Old 08-20-2013, 04:07 PM
 
Location: socal baby
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thanks, i agree with both of you.
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Old 08-20-2013, 04:10 PM
 
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erm...i dont take that away from this at all. its just a mans perspective on his experience for others to read in to if they choose to. i would assume his ex wife would have much of the same advice is she was to put thoughts to paper.

you cant seriously expect him to offer females advice can you?

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i told my wife i was going to do this. she choked on her water then told me to "epic love" her later, she was busy right now
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Old 08-20-2013, 04:15 PM
 
Location: socal baby
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you cant seriously expect him to offer females advice can you?
Is this a rhetorical question or sarcasm?

i would think the insights of divorced men on marriage could be beneficial to women. or are you suggesting their opinions carry little if any weight as far as women are concerned because, after all, he is divorced?
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Old 08-20-2013, 04:17 PM
 
Location: ON, Canada
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Pretty much all of the things in that link can address women, too. I don't see where any of it needs to be gender-specific, but that some men need to hear it from other men.
^^^This. It definitely applies to both genders. I agreed with most but not all of it.

I particularly liked the points that refer to personal accountability, and also a big point that a woman doesn't need you to fix things for her, she wants to be heard.

There are some who will look at this list and think that it's too much effort. Mostly, you get out of marriage what you put into it.
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Old 08-20-2013, 04:18 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Is this a rhetorical question or sarcasm?

i would think the insights of divorced men on marriage could be beneficial to women. or are you suggesting their opinions carry little if any weight as far as women are concerned because, after all, he is divorced?
I'm pretty sure he was saying that, since the writer of the article is a man, he is offering advice to men from a man's point of view. After all, I think that's where his main area of expertise is... since he is a man...
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Old 08-20-2013, 04:37 PM
 
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erm...i dont take that away from this at all. its just a mans perspective on his experience for others to read in to if they choose to. i would assume his ex wife would have much of the same advice is she was to put thoughts to paper.

you cant seriously expect him to offer females advice can you?



i told my wife i was going to do this. she choked on her water then told me to "epic love" her later, she was busy right now
Because you're not supposed to tell her, you're supposed to show her.
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Old 08-20-2013, 04:44 PM
 
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Just did a quick read of this article. It still sounds slightly one-sided, like she's always right. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for admitting one's errors, but not sure a guy's gotta tame his testicles to keep his marriage.

why is the guy always expected to change? or is my perception wrong?

Beautiful Advice From A Divorced Man After 16 Years Of Marriage - Ned Hardy | Ned Hardy
Three is nothing in there that requires anyone to "change". How is "Work as a team", "Never stop growing together" and "Always choose love" requiring you to change who you are? I think this list applies to both genders (with exception of a couple that are male-specific) and not only to married couples, but to any LTR. If both partners did the things on this list, the divorce rate would plummet, IMO.
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