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Old 08-24-2013, 01:37 AM
 
Location: South-Western New Jersey
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A girl added me on facebook the other day and we hung out tonight. Caught a movie, have a lot of common interests, are understanding of each other. Anyhow. Tonight we went to a movie (you're next), and unfortunately i lost composure after one of the characters died and broke out into cold sweats and almost passed out. Despite that, she was holding onto my arm all night and we got along pretty well. We then proceeded to her house and hung out in the backyard and talked for a good hour before saying goodnight. (although she did say i give good hugs guess that's a plus) When i got home she shot me a text saying "tonight was nice" and that she was glad to meet me. I asked her if she would want to do another date soon and she said it would be nice.

(To answer your question, yes i do want to date this girl but i know it's extremely early in the relationship/friendship/being acquaintances)

My two questions are. 1) Do women say that their date was "nice" to be polite or is she withholding her feelings from me.

2) is scheduling another date this upcoming week a bad thing or should i hold off a little longer?

Advice/opinions are welcomed and greatly appreciated! Thank you in advance!
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Old 08-24-2013, 01:40 AM
 
Location: Chicago
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A girl added me on facebook the other day and we hung out tonight. Caught a movie, have a lot of common interests, are understanding of each other. Anyhow. Tonight we went to a movie (you're next), and unfortunately i lost composure after one of the characters died and broke out into cold sweats and almost passed out. Despite that, she was holding onto my arm all night and we got along pretty well. We then proceeded to her house and hung out in the backyard and talked for a good hour before saying goodnight. (although she did say i give good hugs guess that's a plus) When i got home she shot me a text saying "tonight was nice" and that she was glad to meet me. I asked her if she would want to do another date soon and she said it would be nice.

(To answer your question, yes i do want to date this girl but i know it's extremely early in the relationship/friendship/being acquaintances)

My two questions are. 1) Do women say that their date was "nice" to be polite or is she withholding her feelings from me.

2) is scheduling another date this upcoming week a bad thing or should i hold off a little longer?

Advice/opinions are welcomed and greatly appreciated! Thank you in advance!
You're over thinking this.

She likes you. She had a good time with you. She wants to see you again. See her again, sooner rather than later.
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Old 08-24-2013, 01:44 AM
 
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You really almost passed out? WOW
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Old 08-24-2013, 01:46 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Overthinking, OP. Don't 2nd guess a woman when she tells you she had a nice time. It was a nice thing to do, so soon after the date, considering all the games we hear about on this forum: "should I wait 3 days? Should I wait until he texts me, or should I text him?" Blah blah. Just go with it. Looks like you're off to a good start.
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Old 08-24-2013, 01:58 AM
 
Location: South-Western New Jersey
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You really almost passed out? WOW
The girl got cut in the throat. and i have a small phobia of blood oozing out of the throat.... probably because i took a hockey puck to the throat in ice hockey and blacked out/stopped breathing for approximately a minute.
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Old 08-24-2013, 01:59 AM
 
Location: South-Western New Jersey
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Overthinking, OP. Don't 2nd guess a woman when she tells you she had a nice time. It was a nice thing to do, so soon after the date, considering all the games we hear about on this forum: "should I wait 3 days? Should I wait until he texts me, or should I text him?" Blah blah. Just go with it. Looks like you're off to a good start.
Thank you Ruth!! Appreciate the support!!!
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Old 08-24-2013, 02:10 AM
 
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My two questions are. 1) Do women say that their date was "nice" to be polite or is she withholding her feelings from me.
No, I think she meant it.

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2) is scheduling another date this upcoming week a bad thing or should i hold off a little longer?
Do it asap. If she likes you, she will be EXPECTING that as the sign that you like her. If you don't do it, she will think you don't like her.
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Old 08-24-2013, 08:24 AM
 
Location: South-Western New Jersey
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You're over thinking this.

She likes you. She had a good time with you. She wants to see you again. See her again, sooner rather than later.
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No, I think she meant it.

Thanks for the reassurance. I just have had the worst luck with women lately where i just can't seem to choose the right ones and this time i think i have!


Do it asap. If she likes you, she will be EXPECTING that as the sign that you like her. If you don't do it, she will think you don't like her.
Alright, this is awesome
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Old 08-24-2013, 09:03 AM
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Location: Fredericksburg, VA
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The girl got cut in the throat. and i have a small phobia of blood oozing out of the throat.... probably because i took a hockey puck to the throat in ice hockey and blacked out/stopped breathing for approximately a minute.
At least you had a good reason for it, then. Don't over-think it, OP. Just take her at her word she had a nice time. Ask her when she wants to hang out again, but don't leave it to her entirely. Ask her but also suggest a night. That conveys your interest in her.

"I was wondering when you wanted to get together again. I was thinking Tuesday night we could..."
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Old 08-24-2013, 09:08 AM
 
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A girl added me on facebook the other day and we hung out tonight. Caught a movie, have a lot of common interests, are understanding of each other. Anyhow. Tonight we went to a movie (you're next), and unfortunately i lost composure after one of the characters died and broke out into cold sweats and almost passed out. Despite that, she was holding onto my arm all night and we got along pretty well. We then proceeded to her house and hung out in the backyard and talked for a good hour before saying goodnight. (although she did say i give good hugs guess that's a plus) When i got home she shot me a text saying "tonight was nice" and that she was glad to meet me. I asked her if she would want to do another date soon and she said it would be nice.

(To answer your question, yes i do want to date this girl but i know it's extremely early in the relationship/friendship/being acquaintances)

My two questions are. 1) Do women say that their date was "nice" to be polite or is she withholding her feelings from me.

2) is scheduling another date this upcoming week a bad thing or should i hold off a little longer?

Advice/opinions are welcomed and greatly appreciated! Thank you in advance!

Relax, don't over analyze and let your friendship/relationship flow naturally and see where it takes you.

Schedule the next date when you both are available but don't get too anxious about it if she can't meet you for a few days. People do have responsibilities outside of dating.

Don't call too much or text too much, if she texts you respond when you get a few minutes free. Then later in the evening call or text her and ask how her day went at school or work or wherever.

Good luck and I'm glad you both enjoyed your evening.
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