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I haven't spoken to my exwife in maybe 2 weeks, but feel done being upset and grieving.
I'm going to tell you something you may not want to hear, but here it is... before you can move on with anyone new and make a healthy relationship, you are going to have to develop REAL space between you and your ex-wife. As in no contact for awhile. A long while. It's simply not fair to anyone you date to be in regular contact with someone you have a long history with and who still stirs such emotions in you. Think of how you felt when she "cheated on" you with the inappropriate emails and such. You are doing the same thing to any girl you date if you keep up contact with her. I know this is not the answer you want, but I encourage you to mull it over and try to look at this situation from the other side before dismissing it outright.
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Originally Posted by TheEarthBeneathMe
So long story short, we're back together, and I said "I love you" for the first time in over a year and a half.
Another piece of advice you probably don't want: this screams rebound. Two weeks ago, you were miserable because your ex is remarried and pregnant. Now you randomly got together with a different ex and are saying "I love you." SLOW DOWN. If there is something that's right with this girl, it will still be right 3 months from now, and 6 months from now. Slow down, make space in your life from exes, and allow things to develop naturally. Good luck.
I'm going to tell you something you may not want to hear, but here it is... before you can move on with anyone new and make a healthy relationship, you are going to have to develop REAL space between you and your ex-wife. As in no contact for awhile. A long while. It's simply not fair to anyone you date to be in regular contact with someone you have a long history with and who still stirs such emotions in you. Think of how you felt when she "cheated on" you with the inappropriate emails and such. You are doing the same thing to any girl you date if you keep up contact with her. I know this is not the answer you want, but I encourage you to mull it over and try to look at this situation from the other side before dismissing it outright.
Another piece of advice you probably don't want: this screams rebound. Two weeks ago, you were miserable because your ex is remarried and pregnant. Now you randomly got together with a different ex and are saying "I love you." SLOW DOWN. If there is something that's right with this girl, it will still be right 3 months from now, and 6 months from now. Slow down, make space in your life from exes, and allow things to develop naturally. Good luck.
Great advice! OP, you're not "done grieving" just because someone else came along. Now your ex has become the distraction from the grieving you need to do and your lack of desire to face your issues head-on. In my ever so humble opinion, of course.
You seem to im-print and de-print pretty quickly, no?
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