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I had a date with this really nice guy in April. Things went really well, I thought. We had lunch, and went to a movie. Sparks flew. We kissed. He had his daughter's graduation from OSU the following weekend, but said he'd call. We texted (him first) for a few days, then nothing. Fast forward 4 months....2 weeks ago, he texts me out of nowhere..."hey, it's been awhile, how are you????" I did know who it was...then last night he texted again. "Hey, it's me...K...how are you". Asks me if I am dating anyone, and then I asked him, why are you texting me now, after 4 months. His response....I don't know. I was thinking about you. WTF???? It's not like we are in our 20's. We are in our 50's, actually 2 weeks apart as far as birthdays.
He's probably just a little bored with his own life.
If I were you, I'd ignore him forever.
His sporadic appearances are very immature.
If he can't even give you a proper reason as to why he disappeared and why he's texting you now, he's not worth your time. This guy is just seeing you as an option. If you keep responding to his messages, he'll see you as this "doormat" option who will always be there whenever he pleases. Don't let him fool you into talking to him. He just wants to string you along when he's bored and disappear again when someone better comes along. He's just using you to fill the void in his love life.
I had a date with this really nice guy in April. Things went really well, I thought. We had lunch, and went to a movie. Sparks flew. We kissed. He had his daughter's graduation from OSU the following weekend, but said he'd call. We texted (him first) for a few days, then nothing. Fast forward 4 months....2 weeks ago, he texts me out of nowhere..."hey, it's been awhile, how are you????" I did know who it was...then last night he texted again. "Hey, it's me...K...how are you". Asks me if I am dating anyone, and then I asked him, why are you texting me now, after 4 months. His response....I don't know. I was thinking about you. WTF???? It's not like we are in our 20's. We are in our 50's, actually 2 weeks apart as far as birthdays.
Don't know why, and if it were me I wouldn't care. I think the original disappearing act and the subsequent returning without any consideration or explanation (ie: apology) is a huge deal breaker.
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Yeah...I mean I have a few choice things I'd like to say. If he does it again, I won't hold back. I mean, when I was younger if a guy had done that, I would have told him to F**K off. Thanks for your input all.
Yeah...I mean I have a few choice things I'd like to say. If he does it again, I won't hold back. I mean, when I was younger if a guy had done that, I would have told him to F**K off. Thanks for your input all.
I don't think you need to have this level of hostility to still take of business, you know what I mean??? You're gonna come off as some crazy old broad.
How about just pickup the phone if he calls and just calmly ask him what happened... surely you both can be adults about it...
He probably started dating someone else, then they broke up and he's going through his contacts to see who he can go out with again. He already knows you're interested so he probably thinks you'll be easy pickins.
I had a guy do this recently to me... I went out with him twice, he completely disappeared, so I deleted his number and moved on. A few weeks ago he texted me, I asked who it was (first hint?) and he told me he had been thinking about me. I asked him point blank 'So...when was the breakup?' and he said 'Last week'. That was the end of that.
He probably started dating someone else, then they broke up and he's going through his contacts to see who he can go out with again. He already knows you're interested so he probably thinks you'll be easy pickins.
I had a guy do this recently to me... I went out with him twice, he completely disappeared, so I deleted his number and moved on. A few weeks ago he texted me, I asked who it was (first hint?) and he told me he had been thinking about me. I asked him point blank 'So...when was the breakup?' and he said 'Last week'. That was the end of that.
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