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a woman might or might not but a codependent would do it in a heart beat.
Not if we've had therapy to get over that codependency crap! That's exactly WHY I would never date an alcoholic. I would always be distrustful. It would not be a healthy relationship, even if the RA went for years before he started drinking again.
RA's should probably date only either other RA's or people who don't have codependent tendencies in the first place.
My experience is that, except in wonderfully rare cases, it doesn't go well when alcoholics get together, drinking or not.
Okay, I'll take your word for that! I did know a couple who were both RA's that seemed all right. She had 25 years, he had around 15. They were very mature and didn't appear to have many of the me me me issues common to alkies.
Like oregonwoodsmoke, I find that the personality traits alcoholics have in common with each other just aren't compatible with me.
I don't know which comes first -- if certain personalities correlate with a tendency to become addicted, or if years of alcohol permanently change people's brains. But I have a friend who has been sober 30 years and he has that personality. It's charming, and fun in small doses, but not longterm compatible for me.
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That's exactly WHY I would never date an alcoholic. I would always be distrustful. It would not be a healthy relationship, even if the RA went for years before he started drinking again.
