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Boom. Don't sugarcoat it. There are hot guys everywhere and you want to get in on the college action. It's fine, but don't blame distance. You'd probably be feeling the same way if he lived in a dorm across campus. Don't rationalize to yourself (although it's an easy out.....until he moves closer) that its the long distance.
Eh... no. I've been where the OP is/was. The appeal of those temptations is MUCH greater when you're hours apart and don't see each other for weeks/months at a time versus "across campus." When my then-GF and I finally did live in the same town -- a Big Ten town mind you where "easy" temptations in our age group were exceedingly plentiful -- after living apart for years, the appeal of those temptations dropped massively. "Temptation magnification" is only one of many sources of strain inherent to a LDR.
3) Break it off with him and find someone locally.
There's really no other way around it.
This^ sums it up well.
LDRs are certainly no easy thing,
yet when one can't find a compatible person with whom one has chemistry in the nearby environs,
one searches farther afield...ending up in a LDR.
LDRs are certainly no easy thing,
yet when one can't find a compatible person with whom one has chemistry in the nearby environs,
one searches farther afield...ending up in a LDR.
I would think many if not most LDRs start off locally but then one moves for some reason or other. That's how I ended up in a LDR and it sounds like that's what happened to the OP too. Anyway OP did the wise thing anf broke it off.
I was in an LDR for about six months. It was horrible. She wasn't a very secure person, so she would get controlling and annoyed if I actually went out at night when she wasn't there. I finally couldn't deal with it any more and dropped her.
I would think many if not most LDRs start off locally but then one moves for some reason or other. That's how I ended up in a LDR and it sounds like that's what happened to the OP too. Anyway OP did the wise thing anf broke it off.
Mine started online so it's a little different. We started with no physical interaction, had a glimpse of physical interaction, no more physical interaction. I've been in one before and I realized I want to be in a local "normal" relationship. I'm tired of being the girl with the boyfriend she met online.
Eh... no. I've been where the OP is/was. The appeal of those temptations is MUCH greater when you're hours apart and don't see each other for weeks/months at a time versus "across campus." When my then-GF and I finally did live in the same town -- a Big Ten town mind you where "easy" temptations in our age group were exceedingly plentiful -- after living apart for years, the appeal of those temptations dropped massively. "Temptation magnification" is only one of many sources of strain inherent to a LDR.
My mind started wandering off and thinking about local relationships. I began to have doubts in my relationship and my feelings for the LDR left altogether. It was sudden and unexpected for my ex. I think LDRs with folks who met locally are different for those who met over the internet. I feel like people who have had time together locally have bonded through physical interaction. I am starting to realize the real way to connect with someone is to be there with them, and that is very important in the beginning of a relationship.
I am 20 and I've been in LDR's for about the past 2 years (2 guys). My current boyfriend is wonderful and we get along great. We've spent some time together. I just transferred to a university and it's getting rather lonely. I have friends but I think I am getting bored of my relationship. About 2 days ago my boyfriend sent me a text pretending we lived in the same city, saying he'd come pick me up. Since that text, I've been realizing I really wish I had that sort of relationship. Don't people usually have that type of relationship? Here I am wishing for one. I'm young and I've never had a relationship the way it's "supposed" to be and I'm curious. I really care about my boyfriend and we're in this for the long hall but maybe I am too young to be deciding my forever right now. Thoughts??
Long Distance never works EVER EVER EVER. Break it off and go have some fun.. You 20 years old and in college.. go buckwild!
Mine started online so it's a little different. We started with no physical interaction, had a glimpse of physical interaction, no more physical interaction. I've been in one before and I realized I want to be in a local "normal" relationship. I'm tired of being the girl with the boyfriend she met online.
Stop meeting people online and get out there and meet people offline. Online dating is a facade.
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