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One thing to keep in mind is that something that might not be an issue today can become one later on. I knew a couple where the woman was 15 years older. At the time they got married, the age gap wasn't an issue. He was in his early 30s and she was in her late 40s. They didn't want kids and both were healthy and active. But eventually she reached her 60s, which is when even the healthiest of people start to have problems. Long story short, he ended up having to take care of her. Of course, part of being married is helping one another "in sickness and in health" and growing old together. But I think it eventually hit him that he was going to outlive his wife, which was very hard for him to deal with. As far as I know, they're still together. But last I heard, she retired and is now having more health problems. Meanwhile, he's still in great health and at the peak of his career. On the one hand, I think it's great how he stayed with her and didn't do what so many guys do, which is dump her for someone younger. But I do get the sense that he was shocked at how his wife would age. It's almost if it's suddenly dawned on him that "yes, your wife is older than you." I think that before she turned 60, it was one of things he didn't really think about, because she was so fit and healthy.
Not a big deal as long as the maturity level is comparable and the life goals are in synct.
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I wouldn't say that age matters all the time. I've seen people date in high school and then marry and it has worked out. For the examples that it worked out, when I think about it, both people were mature. I've known 18 year olds who make some fifty year olds look immature. My mothers ex best friend is fifty. A president of a bank. My mother hooked her up with my fathers cousin and the first month was decent. She was also highly immature. I've seen teenagers act more mature. They must have broken up fifty times in two years. Swear to god. And when she left him, she went back to her geeky husband whom my mother always thought was the problem. Now, my mother realizes that it was her who was the problem. She was too "emotionally" immature. And she's fifty and highly successful. Don't judge maturity by what someone does or has accomplished. Because in that regard she's mature. In dating, she's a little kid.
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