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Firstly, commitment is not marriage. Marriage is a piece of paper. You can be committed to someone, live with them all your life and not be married to them. Ok, so it may be that you are religious and this is not an option. It may be that it is more difficult to "live together" in the US due to social problems and opinions of others.
Secondly, foreigners have different cultures, different educational systems, different beliefs, and finally they have been brought up in a different way. All this goes to make it EXTREMELY difficult for people of two different nationalities to make it together.
Thirdly, I would agree with others on here. You really need to sort yourself out. You dont seem to know what you want and you are floundering around hoping you will find it. By 'settling down' now, before you know what you want, you will stand a high chance of divorce later on.
So, my advice too, is to get to know yourself and be comfortable in your own skin. Be comfortable with your own company and then any relationship will not be one-sided with a needy person being needy all the time.
It may take a couple of years but it will be worth it to know that your relationship will eventually be with someone who has been attracted to you because you are a strong and independent woman who knows what she wants and is willing to come into a relationship as equals.
Your making the mistake of thinking your choices are limited by who you currently know and by "lifestyles" you think you're missing out on. The truth is you probably really like(d) both of these guys but neither one is totally right for you, and that's an important lesson to learn and live by. It's natural to be attracted to people who have qualities we like, and it can be fun to date them for awhile too, but don't be blind to the qualities you don't like or the things that are missing.
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