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I tried calling him today but he did not pick up. I wanted to confirm our saturday night plan.
If he doesn't get back to you and hits you up mid week, you know where you stand with this guy. If your OK with getting used just for sex, knowing he's banging other women too, then have at it. If not, walk. But hey, I've seen it before. Some guys just have that animal attractiveness and women can't resist no matter how dickish they are.
Maybe it's my age (pushing 40), but it's crazy to me when young people get worked up when they haven't received a response to a communication in 24 hours. The number of things that can come up in 24 hours is nearly infinite. Often times for me a 24 hour period can consist of just work and sleep, and maybe a social activity thrown in there somewhere, and I just don't get around to responding to texts, even from someone I really like. Catching up with emails and texts is sometimes something I only do every few days, or possibly even once a week. I wouldn't worry about a lack of response until several days or weeks have gone by.
Definitely your age. If someone isn't texting you back, there's a reason. For most people of my generation, the cell phone doesn't leave our sides.
I'll assume your a bit older. Texting is the norm for twenty somethings and below.
Irrevalant. I text plenty. It's a continuing complaint here, people all anxious and worried because they can't figure out what someone's TEXT means. Texting is great for short and quicks - not so great for a conversation. My point is, if you don't understand what someone means, then TALK TO THEM. It's not rocket science.
Definitely your age. If someone isn't texting you back, there's a reason. For most people of my generation, the cell phone doesn't leave our sides.
Mine doesn't leave my side, either, but I have a life and expect that others do, too. Most people in my demographic are working 8-10 hours per day, maybe commuting an hour each way to work, trying to sleep 7-8 hours a night, and having evening activities (social, exercise, community involvement, classes, second jobs, family activities, you name it). There just isn't time to respond to a bunch of texts from a bunch of people every hour or even every day sometimes. We expect each other to be busy, and catch up when we can. 24 hours without a response among busy people is NOTHING. Maybe if you know the person does nothing but lay around all day, you could expect instant response, but otherwise, I don't think that's a reasonable expectation.
I tried calling him today but he did not pick up. I wanted to confirm our saturday night plan.
Ah...then there you go. If he won't answer a phone call, he's jacking you around. Of course, he could be busy. I often don't answer if I am working, or otherwise occupied. Sending someone a text is easy and can be meaningless...intentionally so. That's why it's not a great communication tool. You tried calling, so if he doesn't want to talk, assuming he doesn't return your call, then leave him be and move on.
Mine doesn't leave my side, either, but I have a life and expect that others do, too. Most people in my demographic are working 8-10 hours per day, maybe commuting an hour each way to work, trying to sleep 7-8 hours a night, and having evening activities (social, exercise, community involvement, classes, second jobs, family activities, you name it). There just isn't time to respond to a bunch of texts from a bunch of people every hour or even every day sometimes. We expect each other to be busy, and catch up when we can. 24 hours without a response among busy people is NOTHING. Maybe if you know the person does nothing but lay around all day, you could expect instant response, but otherwise, I don't think that's a reasonable expectation.
A text takes seconds. You're acting like you need to sit down and pen a letter. I work in corporate America, roughly 50 hours a week. I'm extremely busy professionally and socially. I'll answer a text at my desk. It's no big deal. Across the board in my age group, if someone doesn't text you back in a 24 hour period, unless they just missed it, there's a reason.
Email is a different story and I agree with you on that point.
But I have to question. If you have the time to spend on this forum, and I see you post a lot, how do you not have the time to text a friend back?
Ah...then there you go. If he won't answer a phone call, he's jacking you around.
Please. Who do you know that is able to just answer a phone call at any time? Certainly not anyone who is employed and has any semblance of a social life.
Please. Who do you know that is able to just answer a phone call at any time? Certainly not anyone who is employed and has any semblance of a social life.
I didn't say any such thing. I said if he WON'T. Totally different.
A text takes seconds. You're acting like you need to sit down and pen a letter. I work in corporate America, roughly 50 hours a week. I'm extremely busy professionally and socially. I'll answer a text at my desk. It's no big deal. Across the board in my age group, if someone doesn't text you back in a 24 hour period, unless they just missed it, there's a reason.
Email is a different story and I agree with you on that point.
But I have to question. If you have the time to spend on this forum, and I see you post a lot, how do you not have the time to text a friend back?
I have a phone at my desk. Far far easier. If people need me when I am work, they call me there.
I'm not sure what your job is, but in mine I'm often in meetings all day. Unless you want to end up looking like John McCain the other day, you don't whip out your phone and start responding to texts when you're supposed to be interpersonally engaged.
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Across the board in my age group, if someone doesn't text you back in a 24 hour period, unless they just missed it, there's a reason.
I'm curious, what is your age group? I'm glad I don't date in it, apparently.
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Email is a different story and I agree with you on that point.
How is it different? Both are text-based, show up instantly on your phone, and only take "a few seconds" (your words) to respond to if you want to send something brief, half-assed, and meaningless, but significantly more time if you want to send something thoughtful. The only difference is which app is opened on your phone.
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But I have to question. If you have the time to spend on this forum, and I see you post a lot, how do you not have the time to text a friend back?
Sometimes I have time to spend on this forum, and sometimes I don't. Sometimes I post here several times a day. Other times I go several days, and occasionally even several weeks, without posting, because I'm busy. Same with text messaging or anything else. Life happens.
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It's a continuing complaint here, people all anxious and worried because they can't figure out what someone's TEXT means. 
Texting is great for short and quicks - not so great for a conversation. My point is, if you don't understand what someone means, then TALK TO THEM. It's not rocket science.
I said if he WON'T. Totally different.
