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Well, he might just have been genuinely nice (depends) I believe you're a single mom? and one thing single guys usually don't flirt with is moms with a kid/s at a groceries. But, if you didn't have your kid/s with you and you declined any help, I would have took it as a "I'm not interested get lost creeper" Lol
I was grocery shopping today and walked to an isle with my diet drinks. I was in my own little world and hemming and hauling over my flavors. I looked at the top row to read the kinds. Then this nicely dressed man comes up to me and ask, "Do you need anything from the top shelf?" I stared blankly for a minute then laughed,"Ha, nah I'm alright." He then responds, "It would be my pleasure to help you." I just said that I was ok. Meanwhile he looked for his items and I walked away.
Later as I looked for my items.....it dawned on me....holy crap I was just hit on. I must be getting old.
I'm usually completely oblivious to being hit on, usually just think men are being nice just cuz....
Well, if what happened to you happened to me, it never would have dawned on me that it might be flirting or anything. I'd figure he was just being polite. Then again, my friends always tell me that men are flirting with me when I just don't see it--I figure they are being nice or just silly or in a few cases, just being stupid.
Case in point, early this summer I was swimming laps and some guy got into my lap lane and just stood there. I didn't see him and swam right into him. I ended up being very POed at him too. I posted about it on Facebook saying, "who just gets into someone's lap lane and stands there!?" Just about everyone chimed in saying he was flirting/trying to get my attention (and it was mostly male friends that told me this). Honestly, I still don't see it as anything other than someone being inconsiderate.
As for men not flirting with women with kids. I think that depends on age and the circumstances the man is in. At my age, most men are married or are divorced (and often have kids of their own). They flirt and will often flirt with women with kids because most of the women around their age who are single are like them (divorced with kids). And just like there are men out there who won't consider a woman with kids, there are men in my divorce support group who said they would only consider dating another parent simply because another parent can relate to and understand the challenges of dating and relationships when you already have kids. So there is no hard fast rule really.
No I don't think so. Just because someone is nice to me, I don't assume that person is flirting or hitting on me. It's been my experience that when people are out, they are not looking to meet people or flirt, they just want to do what they left the house to do. So just because someone is talking to me in a grocery store, or even at a bar, I just take it as polite conversation.
Well, if what happened to you happened to me, it never would have dawned on me that it might be flirting or anything. I'd figure he was just being polite. Then again, my friends always tell me that men are flirting with me when I just don't see it--I figure they are being nice or just silly or in a few cases, just being stupid.
Case in point, early this summer I was swimming laps and some guy got into my lap lane and just stood there. I didn't see him and swam right into him. I ended up being very POed at him too. I posted about it on Facebook saying, "who just gets into someone's lap lane and stands there!?" Just about everyone chimed in saying he was flirting/trying to get my attention (and it was mostly male friends that told me this). Honestly, I still don't see it as anything other than someone being inconsiderate.
As for men not flirting with women with kids. I think that depends on age and the circumstances the man is in. At my age, most men are married or are divorced (and often have kids of their own). They flirt and will often flirt with women with kids because most of the women around their age who are single are like them (divorced with kids). And just like there are men out there who won't consider a woman with kids, there are men in my divorce support group who said they would only consider dating another parent simply because another parent can relate to and understand the challenges of dating and relationships when you already have kids. So there is no hard fast rule really.
This is true I am 36 and I know I look at other dads.And yes he looked my age or maybe 40's. Like your swimming incident, I wasn't even reaching or stretching. I wasn't jumping to get the tiny boxes that are the size of a small toothpaste box. But who knows. It was a local store so things happen.
Lol I would of pushed the guy and yelled too if he got in my swimming lane. That was indeed getting your attention.
And the man at the grocery store got mine. Other wise I wouldn't of made this thread.
No I don't think so. Just because someone is nice to me, I don't assume that person is flirting or hitting on me. It's been my experience that when people are out, they are not looking to meet people or flirt, they just want to do what they left the house to do. So just because someone is talking to me in a grocery store, or even at a bar, I just take it as polite conversation.
Why take the time to do it? Get your stuff and go is my motto as well.
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Originally Posted by K-Luv
I would think that if the guy was truly hitting on you he would have concluded with something such as Ok. Well, perhaps next time. wink wink
I mean, you were looking at items on the top shelf...gentlemen still exist, you know.
I know some are still gentlemen.
He concluded with a smile and "It would be my pleasure". He also did the side glance look at me.
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I must be getting old.
