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Old 09-11-2013, 12:47 PM
 
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You always hear lower your standards if you keep getting rejected which is fair but at the same time as bad as iam in attracting women i could never be with someone iam not physically attracted to even slightly..

It wouldnt be fair to either of us imo..I doubt a women or man would want to hear or find out that somebodies with them becasue they were the only one who said yes to them and were only approached because better looking people who im attracted to rejected me so i tohguht you were blah loking enough that you might say yes..

Maybe other people can do that but i need some attraction physically for me to give somebody a chance..i just cant get aroused by someone i dont find attractive..

And before the inevitable posts about goign after only hot girls or super models its not the case at all..but i cant find somebody repulsive and want to date them..
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Old 09-11-2013, 12:49 PM
 
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You make it sound like you couldn't find your favorite scotch in the liquor store so you want to know if it's okay to just buy some rot gut.

Come on now.
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Old 09-11-2013, 12:51 PM
 
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Yes.
Sometimes by getting to know someone an attraction can develop.
Most likely, this has happened to most women that dated me more than a few times. haha.

I have dated women that I wasn't initially attracted to. Sometimes an attraction develops, sometimes it doesnt. There is always something attractive about every one of us. But sometimes it takes a while to discover such attractive traits.

Edit: BTW, repulsive people get it on also. Actually, I am kind of amazed at the frequency of such. Sometimes it is just as frequent as hot people.
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Old 09-11-2013, 12:53 PM
 
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Yes.
Sometimes by getting to know someone an attraction can develop.
Most likely, this has happened to most women that dated me more than a few times. haha.

I have dated women that I wasn't initially attracted to. Sometimes an attraction develops, sometimes it doesnt. There is always something attractive about every one of us. But sometimes it takes a while to discover such attractive traits.
Exactly.

Until a guy grows up enough to accept that you don't choose a woman strictly on looks alone, that guy will continue to be alone and lonely.
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Old 09-11-2013, 12:56 PM
 
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Exactly.

Until a guy grows up enough to accept that you don't choose a woman strictly on looks alone, that guy will continue to be alone and lonely.
"looks alone" is quite different then to not care about looks at all..Obviously it cant be just about looks but if im not attracted at all physically i have no desire to want to see that women naked no matter how cool she is..
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Old 09-11-2013, 12:56 PM
 
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You can only do what is right for you.

If you can only date women you find attractive physically, then find the best looking woman for you that likes you. That's all you can do really.
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Old 09-11-2013, 01:00 PM
 
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OP, here's a tip:

dating takes practice and skill. start with what you can get, develop your conversation and dating skills and improve as you go along. start with 3s and work your way up to 6s. make it easy for you and her, just saying you're just looking to have good times, good company with good friends. strictly plantonic. and then if you out with a good one, work on your kissing and touching skills. i think it takes about 2 years to get to the point where you know what kind of quality women is within your reach..

attractive women only date ppl with good dating skills, which includes guys with the confidence to approach them.

practice makes perfect. good luck.
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Old 09-11-2013, 01:01 PM
 
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"looks alone" is quite different then to not care about looks at all..Obviously it cant be just about looks but if im not attracted at all physically i have no desire to want to see that women naked no matter how cool she is..
Then you are simply too shallow and superficial for a healthy relationship.

I suggest you embrace your batchelorhood - after all, you are freely choosing it
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Old 09-11-2013, 01:02 PM
 
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Then you are simply too shallow and superficial for a healthy relationship.

I suggest you embrace your batchelorhood - after all, you are freely choosing it
So im shallow and superficial because i need a small amount of physical attraction? lol i think thats most people
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Old 09-11-2013, 01:05 PM
 
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yes. Stop over rating youself and go for women who are your equivalent.
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