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Old 09-14-2013, 01:45 PM
 
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I often hear women discuss their ideas of creepy, boorish, overly aggressive, or sexist behavior.


But what I see in reality is that the "offensiveness" of the behavior depends on whether they are attracted to, or are interested in a guy.


If a guy is unappealing, nothing he does when approaching some women will seem appropriate. No matter what he says or does, there will be some criticism of his words, actions, or intentions. But when a guy who she likes do the same exact thing, it's seen as bold, creative, and taking charge.


Of course this doesn't apply to all women, but it's something I have seen quite often.
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Old 09-14-2013, 01:47 PM
 
Location: Metro Detroit
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I often hear women discuss their ideas of creepy, boorish, overly aggressive, or sexist behavior.


But what I see in reality is that the "offensiveness" of the behavior depends on whether they are attracted to, or are interested in a guy.


If a guy is unappealing, nothing he does when approaching some women will seem appropriate. No matter what he says or does, there will be some criticism of his words, actions, or intentions. But when a guy who she likes do the same exact thing, it's seen as bold, creative, and taking charge.


Of course this doesn't apply to all women, but it's something I have seen quite often.
on point
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Old 09-14-2013, 01:52 PM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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It's probably proportional to the amount of crappy, crazy, or high-maintenance behavior a dude will put up with when it's from a woman he thinks is hot, when he wouldn't give a plainer, down-to-earth girl a second look.
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Old 09-14-2013, 01:57 PM
 
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It's probably proportional to the amount of crappy, high-maintenance behavior a dude will put up with when it's from a woman he thinks is hot.
Yeah, I agree completely.


But a lot more men are willing to admit that their behavioral standards are directly related to how attracted they are to the woman.
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Old 09-14-2013, 01:57 PM
 
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Yup. It all depends on how good looking you are.

you're given praise of you're hot when you do these things, but God help you if you're ugly looking and you try to approach women. Most will tear you up regardless of how you approached.
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Old 09-14-2013, 02:05 PM
 
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It's a Catch-22 .....

How do you know whether a woman will welcome your approach? It depends on whether she thinks you're good looking.

How do you know whether she thinks you're good looking? You'll know by whether she welcomes your approach.
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Old 09-14-2013, 02:07 PM
 
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It's a Catch-22 .....

How do you know whether a woman will welcome your approach? It depends on whether she thinks you're good looking.

How do you know whether she thinks you're good looking? You'll know by whether she welcomes your approach.

Yeah exactly. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
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Old 09-14-2013, 02:11 PM
 
Location: Windsor, Ontario, Canada
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It's probably proportional to the amount of crappy, crazy, or high-maintenance behavior a dude will put up with when it's from a woman he thinks is hot, when he wouldn't give a plainer, down-to-earth girl a second look.
Guess I'm the other way around. I like the down to earth girls.

Plus, I don't give a **** how hot someone is. I'm not putting up with thier crap one way or another.
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Old 09-14-2013, 02:30 PM
 
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I have never heard my female friends do this. Maybe you hang out with jerks?
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Old 09-14-2013, 02:49 PM
 
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I have never heard my female friends do this. Maybe you hang out with jerks?
Of course not.


On internet forums, women never admit that they or any of their friends ever do anything other than what they portray.


And any man who has witnessed anything any different is either dealing with the wrong women or somehow at fault themselves.


Nothing new.
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