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So do you plan on staying single forever? At least try match.com or some other dating site. YOLO
YOLO?
Are you 15?
I don't ask guys out even if I know for sure they're interested but shy. Asking a chick out is a pretty simple "manhood" test. If you can't grab your balls and ask me out, then we're not going out. I'm not picking up the slack for him by taking that risk myself.
I don't ask guys out even if I know for sure they're interested but shy. Asking a chick out is a pretty simple "manhood" test. If you can't grab your balls and ask me out, then we're not going out. I'm not picking up the slack for him by taking that risk myself.
It has nothing to do with men having balls or not and no it is not simple for all men. Especially men like myself. I don't approach because i cannot imagine it going well or a woman being accepting of it. Try not overgeneralizing.
It depends on the reality of your situation. For some guys its easy for others its extremely difficult.
Of course it is.
But there comes a time, for me anyway, where you just have to do it. I'll do my part by expressing interest and all that good stuff, but at the bottom line... it's the guy who must take the final step.
I'm not blind. I can see he's shy. I can see he's struggling. And I know that with these guys, I have to endure a very long process usually involving his friends asking in a round about way so they can report back to him and all that song 'n dance. But the bottom line is that he has to do it. Not his friends, and not me.
It has nothing to do with men having balls or not and no it is not simple for all men. Especially men like myself. I don't approach because i cannot imagine it going well or a woman being accepting of it. Try not overgeneralizing.
The question was posed to women. I answered the question.
There's no over generalizing when I tell you that as a woman, for me, no matter what, the guy must grab his balls and ask me out because I will not ask him out.
I never said he didn't have balls. I said he has to grab his balls and do it.
The question was posed to women. I answered the question.
There's no over generalizing when I tell you that as a woman, for me, no matter what, the guy must grab his balls and ask me out because I will not ask him out.
I never said he didn't have balls. I said he has to grab his balls and do it.
Huge difference.
Not trying to change your mind on your preference however you did overgeneralize.
But there comes a time, for me anyway, where you just have to do it. I'll do my part by expressing interest and all that good stuff, but at the bottom line... it's the guy who must take the final step.
I'm not blind. I can see he's shy. I can see he's struggling. And I know that with these guys, I have to endure a very long process usually involving his friends asking in a round about way so they can report back to him and all that song 'n dance. But the bottom line is that he has to do it. Not his friends, and not me.
Most guys are oblivious to women's signals of interest. BTW though I am shy at times i wouldn't send someone else to inquire. I would just leave well enough alone as I know it wouldn't go well or be accepted. No reason to irritate a woman unnecessarily.
Most guys are oblivious to women's signals of interest. BTW though I am shy at times i wouldn't send someone else to inquire. I would just leave well enough alone as I know it wouldn't go well or be accepted. No reason to irritate a woman unnecessarily.
I can only say how I am as a person and why I do not ask guys out. I'm positive I've misunderstood some guys romantic interest as friendship. But that's because I can't figure out why he would be interested, not because he's not interesting. For example, let's say you're a medical doctor. Why would you be interested in an overweight, pothead waitress? Common sense says that's crazy. So if I was a fat pothead server, and you a fit doctor, no matter what you said to me, I would not think you interested romantically and there's nothing you could do to change my mind short of saying: "I'm not crazy, but I really want to take you out to dinner because I think you're funny." And even that might not work.
Generally, even the shyest of adult men will make their interest pretty clear. If she wants to take the time, she can find ways to encourage him. But ultimately, if you want a girl to ask you out, and you can't bring yourself to ask her out, then you're going to have to express your interest pretty clearly so she makes a move. But I'm telling you, even if she asks you out, and you don't make yourself clear on that first date and reciprocate, she won't be making a fool of herself by asking you out again.
(FYI: The above paragraph was over generalizing, but there is a grain of truth to it)
And stop claiming that your advances wouldn't go over well. You have no idea how they'd go over because you don't make them, from the looks of it.
Even you yourself can't possibly believe thats true.
No worries. Someone is having a little fun at our expense. Usually the guy has to ask the women out whether it be rural areas, small towns, mid-sized cities, or large metropolises.
I can only say how I am as a person and why I do not ask guys out. I'm positive I've misunderstood some guys romantic interest as friendship. But that's because I can't figure out why he would be interested, not because he's not interesting. For example, let's say you're a medical doctor. Why would you be interested in an overweight, pothead waitress? Common sense says that's crazy. So if I was a fat pothead server, and you a fit doctor, no matter what you said to me, I would not think you interested romantically and there's nothing you could do to change my mind short of saying: "I'm not crazy, but I really want to take you out to dinner because I think you're funny." And even that might not work.
Generally, even the shyest of adult men will make their interest pretty clear. If she wants to take the time, she can find ways to encourage him. But ultimately, if you want a girl to ask you out, and you can't bring yourself to ask her out, then you're going to have to express your interest pretty clearly so she makes a move. But I'm telling you, even if she asks you out, and you don't make yourself clear on that first date and reciprocate, she won't be making a fool of herself by asking you out again.
(FYI: The above paragraph was over generalizing, but there is a grain of truth to it)
And stop claiming that your advances wouldn't go over well. You have no idea how they'd go over because you don't make them, from the looks of it.
Why would any guy ask you out? Maybe you're nice and have a good personality. Plus some guys like girls who have more meat on their bones
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