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I see no reason to demonize this guy, some people put work first. To me it just seems like you are no longer compatible. You want more time than he is willing or able to give. I think you have to accept things as they are or move on. Since you say you spend all of your free time crying, the right choice seems obvious to me.
Holy ****, woman, you need to correct him or move on.
I work a very demanding job in NYC and commute for 3 hours every day and I still make time. Every man has to prioritize and will make time if his personal life is "as important". My career is very important, but I have to have my family too. And on top of this I still get my 60 minutes exercise done. I don't care about professional networking. The whole drinking with coworkers thing is overrated and is possibly done in low-range village offices where people feel the need to be closely knit in the only pub in the village.
I know, I know... I probably look so pathetic. I've been juggling the idea of leaving this guy but it's so hard. We've been together 6 years and have lived together for 4. Sometimes (usually the weekends) we still have good times and he cracks me up. All my friends and family love him. Part of me is so sick of this BS but the other part makes me want to work it out.
You are right, I'll talk to him tonight. I may also take a break and stay with family for the remainder of the week. Thanks for your input everyone!
6 years is a long time and if this has been happening for the majority of your relationship, you need to have a discussion with him about how you feel. There is nothing worse than feeling like you're #2 or #3 to someone. I've been myself and I had to let my husband know how I felt. I mean it got ugly but it was the only way for him to see how it hurt my feelings. Nip it in the bud NOW because if you don't, it will only get worse. There's no need to go to every single going away party and if he feels obligated tp go then he can go for 30 minutes, an hour tops and then get home to you.
After what you said about your birthday (happy belated, by the way!), it seems he's not putting you first. Sounds like he's taking you for granted. Maybe taking a break might help him realize that you're hurting.
Usually when I see the title of a post like this, I start thinking that the person who is upset is most likely over-analyzing something or worried for no reason.
I was totally wrong, you have a reason to be upset and worried. You're not being needy, and your feelings are justified. Bottom line, relationships are work. Whenever I say I don't have time for something, I try to replace the phrase with "It's not my priority" instead. That line really opens up whether something is important.
6 years is a long time and if this has been happening for the majority of your relationship, you need to have a discussion with him about how you feel. There is nothing worse than feeling like you're #2 or #3 to someone. I've been myself and I had to let my husband know how I felt. I mean it got ugly but it was the only way for him to see how it hurt my feelings. Nip it in the bud NOW because if you don't, it will only get worse. There's no need to go to every single going away party and if he feels obligated tp go then he can go for 30 minutes, an hour tops and then get home to you.
After what you said about your birthday (happy belated, by the way!), it seems he's not putting you first. Sounds like he's taking you for granted. Maybe taking a break might help him realize that you're hurting.
Hope it all works out for you
Call me old fashioned but I think it would be weird to put your girlfriend first. Wife, yes. Girlfriend, no. (Same goes for boyfriends vs husbands).
so until you put your name tags on that say you are married you are free to ignore them as yo please?
No. I clearly said that girlfriends/boyfriends do not come first in life. Coming in second isn't the same as being ignored.
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