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Old 09-23-2013, 01:30 PM
 
Location: Orange County, CA
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Friend, whatever...if you pull out your phone and begin playing with it when we are supposed to be having dinner together, you are a rude SOB and you a dead meat for one-on-one socializing from that point on.
For sure. Since this is the relationship forum, this goes double or triple for a dating couple. There have been previous threads on proper cell phone etiquette. The rule is very simple, before the date starts, you turn off your techie toy, put it away, never check it, and forget about it untill after the date is over. You focus and give all your attention to your companion and expect to receive the same from him/her. To do otherwise is boorish and very rude and tells your date that they are not important and that they are boring you. Expecting a very important call or text that you just cannot miss? Bunk, how often does this happen, once every ten or fifteen years? Never? Let the damn thing go to voicemail, 99.9% of them can wait for several hours with no harm done.
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Old 09-23-2013, 01:39 PM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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Friend, whatever...if you pull out your phone and begin playing with it when we are supposed to be having dinner together, you are a rude SOB and you a dead meat for one-on-one socializing from that point on.
I understand using the phone for checking movie times or googling something that comes up in conversation, but if you made the effort to go out in order to spend some time together spending most of that time with your phone just seems lame.

Some coworkers will regularly go out for drinks after work, and one of the guys has his phone almost surgically attached to his hand to the point where if you try to include him in conversation he says, "Huh, what? Can you say that again?" I just wonder why he even bothers coming, since he obviously would rather be doing something else.
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Old 09-27-2013, 08:05 AM
 
Location: New Jersey
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For sure. Since this is the relationship forum, this goes double or triple for a dating couple. There have been previous threads on proper cell phone etiquette. The rule is very simple, before the date starts, you turn off your techie toy, put it away, never check it, and forget about it untill after the date is over. You focus and give all your attention to your companion and expect to receive the same from him/her. To do otherwise is boorish and very rude and tells your date that they are not important and that they are boring you. Expecting a very important call or text that you just cannot miss? Bunk, how often does this happen, once every ten or fifteen years? Never? Let the damn thing go to voicemail, 99.9% of them can wait for several hours with no harm done.
Very good post! Could apply for friendships and social outings. Was with 2 friends yesterday and the conversation began to veer toward the smartphones and what new apps and stuff they had and showing it off. Happens often I realize after thinking of this thread.
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Old 09-27-2013, 08:12 AM
 
Location: NC
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We put ours away... works quite well.
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Old 10-22-2013, 08:42 AM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic east coast
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Is it an addiction, do you suppose? This need and behavior to always be connected...to find out who's posted what on Facebook...to constantly check and send text messages? To take and send "selfies"?

This just all seems..so shallow..what about conversation that's about ideas/creativity instead of who said/did what and to whom or Miley Cyrus' twerking.

This constant need to communicate about trivia somehow speaks of a validation of "I text, therefore I exist."

Maybe I don't understand. But our world, to me, is becoming a shallow world of mindless pap.

Excuse me now as I go to watch Dancing With the Stars...lol.
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Old 10-22-2013, 09:00 AM
 
Location: Middle America
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It's a habit. Not all habits are addictions.
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Old 10-22-2013, 09:21 AM
 
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Here's you. Not much difference?
And you will note the irritated look on her face. Actually a married couple reading the newspaper over coffee at home and two people engrossed in their devices while out at a restaurant is different.
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Old 10-22-2013, 09:57 AM
 
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And you will note the irritated look on her face. Actually a married couple reading the newspaper over coffee at home and two people engrossed in their devices while out at a restaurant is different.
Maybe it's because I was raised to believe it's rude to read at the table during a meal with someone else, not only do I find that picture to make a good point, I'm that much more annoyed when people pull out their phones while sharing a meal with someone else. To me it's the same thing: You're telling the person you're with that whatever you're looking at in the paper or on the phone is more interesting. The way I see it, if you want to do that, just dine alone.
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Old 03-01-2015, 11:10 AM
 
Location: East Side
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put the phone away and talk to your fellow human beings around you.
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Old 03-01-2015, 08:40 PM
 
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It's rude, it let's me know that you could give two s***s about me, and you're not really listening.

Can a phone hold you at night?
Can a phone emotionally and physically comfort you?
Can you get freaky with a phone?


Put the phone down before it ends up in your mash potatoes...
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