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The part I am not clear is "she's made some decisions already, which doesn't include you" as I don't know whether this is because she is very childish or she has already made decision not to include me.
DW is much like Dora in "David Copperfield and Dora". When I read the character in Dickens' novel, I almost screamed "this is my dw".
The part I am not clear is "she's made some decisions already, which doesn't include you" as I don't know whether this is because she is very childish or she has already made decision not to include me.
DW is much like Dora in "David Copperfield and Dora". When I read the character in Dickens' novel, I almost screamed "this is my dw".
Are you in love with your wife? Were you ever in love with her?
Normally if dw went missing she won't call me. She told me it is my job to find out where she was but she won't answer the phone if I called.
There is some very strange behavior going on your wife's part. Separate vacations? Why? She goes to parties and you're not invited? Why? It's one thing if it is a work event and spouses are not included, but another if it is friends.
The two of you need a lengthy sit down to work this out.
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I totally agree with the suggestion to see a marriage counselor, ASAP.
You both need to spend less time being parents and more time being partners, lovers and friends. Children can kill a marriage and it looks like yours is on its last leg, to me.
Women marry to have security and to have children. Often, when these two things have been accomplished husbands become unnecessary. The woman then seeks out a new partner who "makes her feel special", treats her like a "queen", loves, appreciates and understands her. yada yada yada.
My guess is that she has found someone that she mistakenly believes is the answer to her prayers. It certainly sounds that way to me, anyway. She is simply playing the game with you for the time being until she can A) Squirrel away enough money or B) "get her life together" to a point where she can kiss you goodbye permanently.
I suggest you get both of you into counseling AND I also suggest you talk with an attorney IMMEDIATELY to discuss how you can protect your financial assets in case she decides to leave you for her new guy.
Soon as I read Snip......I figured you out. You do things out of sheer spite...You don't approach a woman or a mate and say in no uncertain terms " Do you want to Snip.?" _ real romantic on your part....LOL......You don't say are you interested in sex...as if she is a machine at your disposal...You have to be tender - romantic....You actually have to care about the person- sex aside...sounds like you both don't like each other much...Why don't you try being in love instead of being a selfish monkey in the corner Snip.....You mention in the beginning of this thread to be gentle with you.......Maybe you should try being tender and gentle with your wife to start with- Good luck buddy.
lol. Thanks for figuring me out.
To be more serious, our sex life sucks, probably once a month in the last ten years on average. DW was very passionate when we met (both virgin at the time and she is my only partner, not sure if I am her only one), but after a few years she adopted the Victoria view that sex other than reproduction is disgusting. We have long discussed the lack of sex, I even bought a car mainly because she said it would improve her sex drive (it didn't). I even threatened a divorce but she said go ahead and reminded me of the child supports. In the end the love for the kids kept us together.
Dry spells are normal but this sounds like she is emotionally detaching. Women don't have lower libidos; they will lose interest in their partner when he no longer stirs positive emotion in her. Letting yourself go doesn't help either. Spiff up a bit.
Stop "asking" for sex, IMO. Seduce! Woo! Sweep the woman off her feet again.
What kind of stuff did you guys do when you were dating?
It does sound like you are roommates. Your wife does not have much consideration for you, and frankly it sounds like you are not on her mind very much.
To be more serious, our sex life sucks, probably once a month in the last ten years on average. DW was very passionate when we met (both virgin at the time and she is my only partner, not sure if I am her only one), but after a few years she adopted the Victoria view that sex other than reproduction is disgusting. We have long discussed the lack of sex, I even bought a car mainly because she said it would improve her sex drive (it didn't). I even threatened a divorce but she said go ahead and reminded me of the child supports. In the end the love for the kids kept us together.
Also I am lean and tall, not a fat slop.
What??
What is a "Victoria view" and how would a car improve her sex drive? What's really got me questioning you is your lack of enthusiasm to seek professional help.
Btw you are making your "DW" look like a monster.
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