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49 posts in, the OP only has two posts in here. I think she got the message.
To bash her as someone not worthy of the guy blah blah blah, is imo, over the top.
She has perhaps a defect of character here or there, like all of us. We all have sex problems (problems regarding a relationship with someone of the opposite sex, or however that goes for you). "We'd hardly be human if we didn't."- page 69, book Alcoholics Anonymous
Let's not throw the baby out with the bathwater, so to speak.
The defect that I see glowing in her is just a tad bit of a control issue, probably sparked by a fear or a slight insecurity. No biggie. She has a right to react and feel however she pleases, to be bothered or flattered by whatever works for her. Heck, that's the beauty of dating. You find out what works for you and decide whether this thing will work out in the long-haul or not.
If it's disrespectful to you then it's disrespectful for your relationship however I think it's suited to move on considering he seems to be embarrassed for you to be seen with him which suggests insecurity issues and in my opinion it's not suited to bother with a guy with those issues especially when it seems to come along with baggage from his prior relationship as he's still doing what he was "trained" to by an ex.
49 posts in, the OP only has two posts in here. I think she got the message.
To bash her as someone not worthy of the guy blah blah blah, is imo, over the top.
She has perhaps a defect of character here or there, like all of us. We all have sex problems (problems regarding a relationship with someone of the opposite sex, or however that goes for you). "We'd hardly be human if we didn't."- page 69, book Alcoholics Anonymous
Let's not throw the baby out with the bathwater, so to speak.
The defect that I see glowing in her is just a tad bit of a control issue, probably sparked by a fear or a slight insecurity. No biggie. She has a right to react and feel however she pleases, to be bothered or flattered by whatever works for her. Heck, that's the beauty of dating. You find out what works for you and decide whether this thing will work out in the long-haul or not.
We learn to pick our battles, so to speak.
Here's where I respectfully disagree. If she's bringing the problem to a forum, she wants advice here, not affirmation. And given that the poster can't seem to get into a lasting relationship, it is up to us to point to the clues she's leaving as the reasons why.
I dated a girl like the OP when I was a freshman in college. Holy cow, I thought she hung the moon. But she was also a total drama queen who would absolutely freak out every single time I saw a female friend from high school or even had a conversation with a cashier at the grocery store.
The final straw was when I saw my best friend from high school at the mall, who gave me her customary hug. I would have introduced my friend to my girlfriend, but she kept right on walking and refused to talk to either of us. So I threw in the towel and broke up with her right there in the shopping mall, realizing that the rest of my life would be spent propping up a neurotic and controlling woman. It's exhausting to date someone like that, because you're walking on eggshells every moment of the day. Hence my advice.
Here's where I respectfully disagree. If she's bringing the problem to a forum, she wants advice here, not affirmation. And given that the poster can't seem to get into a lasting relationship, it is up to us to point to the clues she's leaving as the reasons why.
I dated a girl like the OP when I was a freshman in college. Holy cow, I thought she hung the moon. But she was also a total drama queen who would absolutely freak out every single time I saw a female friend from high school or even had a conversation with a cashier at the grocery store.
The final straw was when I saw my best friend from high school at the mall, who gave me her customary hug. I would have introduced my friend to my girlfriend, but she kept right on walking and refused to talk to either of us. So I threw in the towel and broke up with her right there in the shopping mall, realizing that the rest of my life would be spent propping up a neurotic and controlling woman. It's exhausting to date someone like that, because you're walking on eggshells every moment of the day. Hence my advice.
Re: the bolded, there are sooo many people who come here looking for affirmation under the guise of advice. Those ones go down in a ball of flames after arguing everyone to death because they really didn't want advice in the first place.
He's not my boyfriend, only someone i am seeing. Thinking of moving on is because i dont feel hes that interested, the holding hand is only the catalyst.
"She's not my wife. She's just someone I keep seeing in my life every freakin day!!! UGH!!!!! "
Focus FM!! Focus!!!
Why don't you email this post you made to him so he knows how you feel.
Walking in a mall with him holding hands, a colleague of mine came by said hi to me, he immediately dropped my hand. After a few hours I decided to tell him I didnt like his reaction he was like oh I am sorry but his ex always did that to him so he was trained to do that. He said less drama in that way, and he said in a joking way that "Well I dont want your colleague to think that you are dating a big guy and he looks scary."
I am not fine with it, thinking of moving on. What do you guys think? Is it disrespectful or am I just overreacting.
If you said that he drops your hand when he see his work colleagues, I might be more inclined to think something was up. As in he was embarrassed to be seen with you. The way he describes it, sounds odd, but may be harmless... IDK...only you can know about that.
Re: the bolded, there are sooo many people who come here looking for affirmation under the guise of advice. Those ones go down in a ball of flames after arguing everyone to death because they really didn't want advice in the first place.
Repped. You saved me the trouble of typing this.
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