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If you think he is the one you want to settle down with, tell him to call you when he is ready to settle down. You might really see how much you mean to him at that point!
Don't try to get him to settle down with you if he is not ready. He might try for a while then revert back to his old habits..
Kailani: One of my male friends is in the diplomatic corps and has lived in many parts of the world. He is truthful and outgoing and recently retired. Many of my female friends are always asking me for an evaluation of his current intentions. I tell them that this guy is not the marrying kind, but they do not take my advice seriously.
So these women date him and are seriously dissapointed when they eventually find out that he never intends to pursue a committed relationship. He is truthful with these women and treats them equally in terms of being considerate and polite and they seem to be uncomfortable with this fair and equal treatment. The women who I have introduced to this guy then blame me for steering them in the wrong direction.
Does anyone know why these women take his truthful, open, and sincere treatment with so much resentment ?
Kailani: One of my male friends is in the diplomatic corps and has lived in many parts of the world. He is truthful and outgoing and recently retired. Many of my female friends are always asking me for an evaluation of his current intentions. I tell them that this guy is not the marrying kind, but they do not take my advice seriously.
So these women date him and are seriously dissapointed when they eventually find out that he never intends to pursue a committed relationship. He is truthful with these women and treats them equally in terms of being considerate and polite and they seem to be uncomfortable with this fair and equal treatment. The women who I have introduced to this guy then blame me for steering them in the wrong direction.
Does anyone know why these women take his truthful, open, and sincere treatment with so much resentment ?
Because women are wired much differently to us guys. What they want and what they end up getting is different. They think sure he hasn't settled with other women, but he will for me.
Because women are wired much differently to us guys. What they want and what they end up getting is different. They think sure he hasn't settled with other women, but he will for me.
This is true and why I think the lying or "playing" aspect is overblown. Many of these guys are upfront about the situation and let those women know its strictly casual.
But what happens is many times the women ignore it and think they're going to be one to change the guy any that almost never happens.
Thanks for your significant insight regarding my last post. To continue, I’m a happily married man, but women seem to use me as a safe person to confide in. A few of them usually quiz me on the personal lives of my single male friends with the stipulation that I never reveal anything about their questions to anyone.
Even though I am often blamed for their occasional failures in pursuing these men, they always come back to me for more info about other male prospects. However I enjoy being their co conspirator in these conversations and will continue to do so in the future.
if you wanna get played, that's on you. go for it.
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