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Women who go for low hanging fruit often have issues of their own. It's usually self-esteem issues. Sometimes it's something much worse. To me, those type of women aren't worth the time and effort.
You ask any woman, and they say stuff like I want a nice guy who is sensitive and kind and loving and all that nonsense.
Ok great. then how come for the most part, from what I've seen in real life, the opposite is true?
The 2 guys I know who gets a different girl every month are complete douches to the girls. They would literally bang their brains out and then call a cab to send the girls home afterwards. And they are hooking up with 8,9, 10s. On the rare occasion that they have a 2 week dry spell, they would be willing to lower the bar to a 6-7.
The next guy who is third place in getting girls is no guardian angel either. He would basically spend just enough to get them in bed. After scoring it's hit it and quit it logic for him. It's worked many many times.
Meanwhile, all the "nice guys" I know, whatever that means, get's no girls.
I am sure 99% of the guys can agree with that from their personal experiences as well.
Discuss.
Nice guys, good guys, whatever you want to call them - they aren't jealous of the bad boys that screw a different girl every night. If you actually have good intentions and want an actual relationship and not just a place to stick your thing for the night - then you go after quality, not quantity. A good guy wouldn't be complaining about his friends banging "8,9,10's" while he's not getting to bang anyone.
Women who go for low hanging fruit often have issues of their own. It's usually self-esteem issues. Sometimes it's something much worse. To me, those type of women aren't worth the time and effort.
If you want quality, you have to be patient.
Nice guys don't usually need to be fixed. Bad boys usually do, so they become a project. Women think if they can "create" the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they're busy fixing someone else, they don't have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.
Seriously though, that fake nice makes you into a "simp" (short for simpleton?) that opens hells gates in the broken, bitter, chaotic women that will take advantage of you and belittle your existance while you beg for forgiveness and walk on eggshells in her presence. For a while, lots of prime time TV and movies portray this trope of the wimpy nice guy and the tough gal wife... I've known real couples like this where husbands ask wives for permission, it's like they're asking their mother.
The reality is they won't respect guys like that, so they'll turn to the jerks. Some might be scared to offend the jerk so they stick with him (odd cycle isn't it?). The key is indifference, treat women like you treat men. They're no more special than you or me... no one likes a suck up, well, unless she has a princess mentality. (shudder)
Yeah, I have seen this dynamic a lot with the genders reversed -- he treats her like crap, she walks on eggshells, he then has even less respect for her.
I think it's a human thing, not a gender thing. Seeing a person as valuable even when they put up with crap from you is pretty advanced. Thinking that they don't value themselves, and so you should not value them, is the easy way out. I am guilty of this myself sometimes with guys on this forum, for example.
And I completely agree with treating women the way you treat men. Although I hope that is not really indifference. Polite and kind and compassionate and honest would work better.
One full time, two part time. Just worked all weekend too BTW.
Back to full time in the morning.
"Nice guys" were probably playing xBox 360 and eating Pop Tarts all weekend.
I ain't got time for that.
OK got it when i read your post i was like WTF you taking about .
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