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I agree with you on this. Never understood "emotional cheating" conceptually.
I think there's often--not always--a difference between the kinds of anxiety cheating causes between men and women. For women, cheating leads to fears of being abandoned; for men, cheating leads to a feeling of having been humiliated by another man. I've seen men get violently angry about cheating when they actually could care less about the woman involved. What set them off was the idea they had been "punked" by another guy.
This would be interesting to me as well. I am pretty close to 3 guys at work - all married. I've known them all for over 5+ years. While I know I'm not doing anything wrong, I wonder how the wives would feel seeing them so comfortable with me.
I think physical cheating is the line for me, but that does not mean an "emotional affair" is ok.
Just curious after working with those guys after 5 years, how 'chummy' are you? Do you occasionally hug, physical contact like putting an arm on your shoulder, quick massages for the shoulder/back? Some dirty jokes/experiences shared?
Emotional infidelity is very rampant in the workforce, probably moreso than the physical part.
That's what cheating has always been about until the new words and the virtual world came in. I'm willing to bet next they're going to add mental cheating, dreaming about cheating, etc.
This is what I like about men the most when they define cheating; simple, concrete and to the point.
I guess when it comes to what cheating would hurt me the most, the mind is kind of wired like a man's.
Yet, some of those particular women esp the jealous types are more willing to forgive if their man actually had sex with another woman. That really has me puzzled and I might never understand that type of logic. That's the same as if I were crying for days because I lost $40 but magically remained calmed upon losing a family member.
But it does make sense. Because a significant relationship isn't really about kissing or sex, right? Sure you do that as well, but it's not the foundation of the relation. If so, you would be "**** buddys".
The basis of a significant relationship has more to do with emotional connection, so I guess you could say that the relationship is more threatened by your partner being disconnected from you and emotionally close with another person, than making out with someone.
I would love to see the reactions of couples if they actually saw their SO's daily actions towards opposite-sex co-workers. Talk about emotional cheating!
Everything seems worse when it's right in your face so it's too strict a measure to go by.
That's what cheating has always been about until the new words and the virtual world came in. I'm willing to bet next they're going to add mental cheating, dreaming about cheating, etc.
This is what I like about men the most when they define cheating; simple, concrete and to the point.
I guess when it comes to what cheating would hurt me the most, the mind is kind of wired like a man's.
I don't get too upset if you were to even flirt with another guy as long as it's harmless and you won't be meeting him later WITHOUT me.
Let's me know I picked one other guys dig.
I'm pretty loose on my control that way.
I'll even drop you off at the "Baloney Pony" strip club and give you money.
Just curious after working with those guys after 5 years, how 'chummy' are you? Do you occasionally hug, physical contact like putting an arm on your shoulder, quick massages for the shoulder/back? Some dirty jokes/experiences shared?
Emotional infidelity is very rampant in the workforce, probably moreso than the physical part.
I don't think massages are chummy. And nothing like that happens with my friends and me.
I think I hugged one a couple of years ago when I was going to be gone for a while. He said he would miss me and bear hugged me. It was pretty innocent. Other than that, no physical contact that stands out.
It definitely leans to the emotional side. We don't hang out outside of work, though. We have lunch maybe once a month, if that. I do think I'm "safe" for them.
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