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Old 10-04-2013, 01:47 PM
 
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Default Guys, what do you feel comfortable with your wife/fiance doing?

Watching 'normal porn? Daily?

Watching gangbang porn? BDSM porn? Other pretty-serious porn?

Chatting online, sexting, etc. with guys in other countries? Sending them nude pics of herself?

Chatting/sexting with local guys she has not met, but who think that she is planning to meet them?

Camming/skyping with guys, nude? Long distance? Local? Showing herself masturbating? Orgasming?

Going to clubs that feature male strippers? With friends? Alone?

Now, which of these things do you feel are ok for you to do, when you are in a serious relationship? If some things are different from what you said for gf, why are they different?

I think it's often easier to accept things in ourselves than in our partners. We have more trust in ourselves, maybe .
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Old 10-04-2013, 02:02 PM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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Watching 'normal porn? Daily?
Cool with me. And I'd watch it with her depending on what's on the show.

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Watching gangbang porn? BDSM porn? Other pretty-serious porn?
Nah. She wouldn't be into that. Nor would I.


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Chatting online, sexting, etc. with guys in other countries? Sending them nude pics of herself?

Chatting/sexting with local guys she has not met, but who think that she is planning to meet them?

Camming/skyping with guys, nude? Long distance? Local? Showing herself masturbating? Orgasming?

All of that is verboten.


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Going to clubs that feature male strippers? With friends? Alone?
She's done it. I could care less.


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Now, which of these things do you feel are ok for you to do, when you are in a serious relationship? If some things are different from what you said for gf, why are they different?

I think it's often easier to accept things in ourselves than in our partners. We have more trust in ourselves, maybe .

I've watched porn and gone to strip clubs. I would even tell her when and where I was going.
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Old 10-04-2013, 02:27 PM
 
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
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Major Tom, this is ground control. Turn your oxygen back on.
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Old 10-04-2013, 03:04 PM
 
Location: Fredericksburg, VA
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Watching 'normal porn? Daily?

Watching gangbang porn? BDSM porn? Other pretty-serious porn?

Chatting online, sexting, etc. with guys in other countries? Sending them nude pics of herself?

Chatting/sexting with local guys she has not met, but who think that she is planning to meet them?

Camming/skyping with guys, nude? Long distance? Local? Showing herself masturbating? Orgasming?

Going to clubs that feature male strippers? With friends? Alone?

Now, which of these things do you feel are ok for you to do, when you are in a serious relationship? If some things are different from what you said for gf, why are they different?

I think it's often easier to accept things in ourselves than in our partners. We have more trust in ourselves, maybe .
My wife and I find these activities incompatible with our commitment to each other. Incidentally, I actually trust my wife in this area more so than I trust myself. I am much more visually responsive than she is, so therefore more susceptible to these kinds of things. That is not to say I am on the brink of engaging in any of the activities listed, though.
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Old 10-04-2013, 03:31 PM
 
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Watching 'normal porn? Daily?

Watching gangbang porn? BDSM porn? Other pretty-serious porn?

Chatting online, sexting, etc. with guys in other countries? Sending them nude pics of herself?

Chatting/sexting with local guys she has not met, but who think that she is planning to meet them?

Camming/skyping with guys, nude? Long distance? Local? Showing herself masturbating? Orgasming?

Going to clubs that feature male strippers? With friends? Alone?

Now, which of these things do you feel are ok for you to do, when you are in a serious relationship? If some things are different from what you said for gf, why are they different?

I think it's often easier to accept things in ourselves than in our partners. We have more trust in ourselves, maybe .
Thump!

(Jaw hit floor!)
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Old 10-04-2013, 03:47 PM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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Watching 'normal porn? Daily?

Daily is a bit excessive. Thought he should have gotten tired of those normal porn a long time ago. Nothing special. I perhaps watch porn every once in a while.

Watching gangbang porn? BDSM porn? Other pretty-serious porn?

That doesn't turn me on, not his thing either.

Chatting online, sexting, etc. with guys in other countries? Sending them nude pics of herself?

No no for both of us. That is cheating according to our standard and definition of cheating.

Chatting/sexting with local guys she has not met, but who think that she is planning to meet them?

nope

Camming/skyping with guys, nude? Long distance? Local? Showing herself masturbating? Orgasming?

nope

Going to clubs that feature male strippers? With friends? Alone?

Okay with me.
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Old 10-04-2013, 04:09 PM
 
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My girlfriend is strictly anti-porn. It boggles my mind because she is an atheist or at least claims to be one. Generally I would expect this only from the religious women
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Old 10-04-2013, 04:21 PM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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Watching 'normal porn? Daily?

Watching gangbang porn? BDSM porn? Other pretty-serious porn?

Chatting online, sexting, etc. with guys in other countries? Sending them nude pics of herself?

Chatting/sexting with local guys she has not met, but who think that she is planning to meet them?

Camming/skyping with guys, nude? Long distance? Local? Showing herself masturbating? Orgasming?

Going to clubs that feature male strippers? With friends? Alone?

Now, which of these things do you feel are ok for you to do, when you are in a serious relationship? If some things are different from what you said for gf, why are they different?

I think it's often easier to accept things in ourselves than in our partners. We have more trust in ourselves, maybe .
I was hoping some of the guys from the "What is really considered cheating" thread would chime in.
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Old 10-04-2013, 04:44 PM
 
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Porn...ok

Strip clubs...ok

Flirting...ok

Nothing else.
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Old 10-04-2013, 06:51 PM
 
Location: In Sticky San Antonio TX
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Were I to do it, it would be misogyny and partialism, voyeurism and violence. Were my wife to do it (not married) would be an oxymoron. I wouldn't be married, this would be found out WAY before then and we wouldn't have gone past a few dates. Were I to be married, my wife wouldn't do this. I wouldn't do this. There is nothing attractive about any part of this. Nothing more to say.
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