how early is too early to tell a girl you like her (girls, family)
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so its been eleven days since my first date with this girl and it looks like it will be at least another ten before I see her again , she had to visit her folks last weekend as her dad is sick and she has a competitive run coming up this Saturday so cant go out Friday nite , we have however communicated several times via text since our date , the last time being last nite , she prefers texting which is a little immature I know but tolerable
thing is Ive been invited out on a date by this girl ive been in contact with on an off online for over two months , this girl contacted me last nite and said she would like to meet up and I could see her this weekend , I realise its ok to see other people when your not officially an item but were I to see this other girl , would it be a big mistake to tell the other girl who I like , one one hand im thinking she may be insulted yet on the other im thinking if she has no interest in me , she wouldn't care and this may be a good way of flushing out her true feelings , lots of women take in guys who they know have other women interested in them
I sent her an email last nite , telling her I suspected she didn't really care to get to know me better and how I seemed to be the one who had to instigate every form of communication
she got back to me today and geez do I feel like an idiot , she said she really enjoyed our first date and enjoyed spending time with me but that she has struggled for years with confidence and anxiety issues and that fear holds her back all the time , she apologised for any potential hurt she may have caused me , this was of course completely unescessery , she didn't hurt me , not wanting to continue with someone is a prerogative of any woman , she finished by saying she had learned this past while that she is not ready for a relationship at the moment
I immedietley texted the girl to see if she would let me talk to her on the phone tonite , she agreed
I intend to apologise for being so self absorped and not considering why she said she wasn't sure what she wants , I like her more than ever now , it takes a brave person to open up about their insecurities like that , I don't expect she will want to date me anytime soon but do you think a girl would be open to hearing the following
( pretend her name is jane )
jane , if you were willing to remain in my life , I would be absolutely fine with taking things as slow as you want
even that means the odd phonecall for a while , if you feel like a simple nite out at the movies eventually , id love to go along with you
it might sound dysfunctional but I like this girl , I don't care if she has confidence issues , id like to be a friend to her in her quest to overcome them
so its been eleven days since my first date with this girl and it looks like it will be at least another ten before I see her again , she had to visit her folks last weekend as her dad is sick and she has a competitive run coming up this Saturday so cant go out Friday nite , we have however communicated several times via text since our date , the last time being last nite , she prefers texting which is a little immature I know but tolerable
thing is Ive been invited out on a date by this girl ive been in contact with on an off online for over two months , this girl contacted me last nite and said she would like to meet up and I could see her this weekend , I realise its ok to see other people when your not officially an item but were I to see this other girl , would it be a big mistake to tell the other girl who I like , one one hand im thinking she may be insulted yet on the other im thinking if she has no interest in me , she wouldn't care and this may be a good way of flushing out her true feelings , lots of women take in guys who they know have other women interested in them
never pass up a chance for a date with someone while another person is 'pushing you off'.
More than likely, while you sit around waiting for person #1 to go on another date, person #2 finds someone else to be interested in.
Now, at the same time, I am not a fan of serial dating at all. BUT, if person one is only meeting up/available every other 2nd or 3rd weekend, and it is very casual dating, by all means, date another, and another, and another.
But if someone expresses interest in you, and dates you regularly... and is available, then you have someone who may be interested in you, and they are worth your attention. But person #1 in your story IMO isnt interested in you enough for you to not date other people.
Even with all her 'fears and anxieties....' you mention in the follow up post.
Maybe woman #1 truly is busy, and scared. But you owe it to yourself to be available to someone willing to lower her walls and give you a chance. Perhaps this person for you is woman #2.
never pass up a chance for a date with someone while another person is 'pushing you off'.
More than likely, while you sit around waiting for person #1 to go on another date, person #2 finds someone else to be interested in.
Now, at the same time, I am not a fan of serial dating at all. BUT, if person one is only meeting up/available every other 2nd or 3rd weekend, and it is very casual dating, by all means, date another, and another, and another.
But if someone expresses interest in you, and dates you regularly... and is available, then you have someone who may be interested in you, and they are worth your attention. But person #1 in your story IMO isnt interested in you enough for you to not date other people.
Even with all her 'fears and anxieties....' you mention in the follow up post.
Maybe woman #1 truly is busy, and scared. But you owe it to yourself to be available to someone willing to lower her walls and give you a chance. Perhaps this person for you is woman #2.
it happens but lots of women get all freaked with a guy uses the words of "like" and "love". my advice is don't say like and love to them, show them. you don't have to say it, better if they can see it in your actions and the attention you give them. but do like and love stuff about them, their smiles, shoes, laugh, but use discretion and don't go over-kiss ass with them. total turn off IME.
im happy with how it went despite the fact that she doesn't want a relationship with me or anyone at the moment , she told me she,s still not over a really bad relationship with someone from a while back
she wants to remain friends , I want us to be friends too , even we never get together , I liker her as a person , shes just a beautiful soul
I didn't realise she was having problems , that's why she was lukewarm this past few weeks
I guess this is why men have so much trouble dating. Women's preferences for openness and honesty initially seem to be all over the map, some preferring disclosure of feelings and others preferring for men to feel out and not come on too strong.
Yeah, funny, that. Women are actually individual human beings with vastly differing preferences.
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