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So the guy is wearing a wedding ring and you assume he's married? Widowers still wear their rings.
Here's where I have a problem--you throw this "sexing" word around, flirt with the guy, acknowledge that your marriage is shot and yet you want to "keep the integrity of your marriage"? WTH is that about? Isn't there an all-around betrayal going on here?
such is life. The person you feel for is the party that is totally unaware that his/her spouse is already on the hunt for a replacement.
So my marriage is failing miserably. I'm staying because it makes sense financially. My work doesn't look too good either. Looks like I might be canned anytime soon. If some of you remember, this job I have I'm barely qualified for it & been underperfoming.
So I went to meet one of our clients & there was this instant attraction. First time I went there, I forgot my wedding ring at home. We ended up flirting. He had a wedding ring on & talked about his kids but there was no mention of a wife so I did not press. I also mentioned my son & made no mention of the SO.
Second time I went there, I hinted I was looking for another job. He hinted he was hiring. Third time we wound up having drinks and barely talking about work.
Today I knew I'd be meeting him & did not trust that I would not sleep with him. So I found old underwear which I never got around to throwing. It had a hole on it. I wore it as a way to prevent myself from sexing him. No way was I going to let him see me that way. We flirted. There was no physical contact because of the underwear. Now he asked me if I wanted a job. I asked straight up if I was hiring he said ""depends on the time"". I have no clue what he meant. What y'll think?I didnt want to push. Next time I intend to ask him how much people who work under him make. Now I have no intention of leaving the SO as I have become accustomed to a certain lifestyle and want to leave things like this.
On the other hand I want this new guy to hire me. Should I show up with my wedding ring? I feel like if something is to happen between us I am getting the shorter end of the stick. His marriage is not a secret, mine is. Do you guys think he can hire me if he knows I'm married? I would not mind revealing the marriage after a solid offer. Also, how do I deal with giving him a deadline on whether he will hire me or not? Getting tired of the games.
I know these questions make me look green but then again I am with regards to cheating and screwing people to get a job.
I guess what I want to know is how do I get a man who is attracted to me, I'm also attracted to him to hire me without me sexing him & still keeping the integrity of my marriage although the marriage is lousy.
So you're the victim right, the damsel in distress? HA!
You want us to validate your actions? At least not from me.
IMO: To many of us normal people with at least some morals, values and ethics after reading your post will come to appreciate not being good enough and or not getting involved with people the mess around, have no accountability and have the mentality that it's okay to make others pay the ultimate price in the end.
Okay, back to the ridiculous OP. Every so often it's possible to flirt too much, even if both parties are married. All you have to do is wear your ring, apologize to the guy for joking around a little too much, admit you're married, and just take things from there. He may be hoping for an out too.
There's no way he was serious about having a job for you. Really.
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. We flirted. There was no physical contact because of the underwear. Now he asked me if I wanted a job. I asked straight up if I was hiring he said ""depends on the time"". I have no clue what he meant. What y'll think?I didnt want to push. Next time I intend to ask him how much people who work under him make. Now I have no intention of leaving the SO as I have become accustomed to a certain lifestyle and want to leave things like this. 
