Hey everyone,
I have a bit of a long story to tell and hopefully you all can help give my some advice or at-least a new perspective. Here I go.
So I started dating a girl about 7 months ago now. We are very similar, have very similar interests in sports, work, music, comedy, what we like to do for fun etc... everything is going great, we go on a few road-trips and big events, we meet each others family, lots of affection, cuddling, sex etc... Literally nothing wrong, no arguments or fights.
Then completely out of no where/no warning, she breaks up with me.
She contacts me the very next day and we kinda text a little although I tried to not text back anything but very short answers
2 weeks later she text me that shes in the hospital. I go and visit her ASAP and she was very happy to see me, and explains that she had gone anorexic
and didnt want me to find out. I just held her and comforted each-other until the nurse kicked me out. She was in the hospital for almost 3 weeks (I visited between 1-2 times/week) getting counseling and help and when she finally got out I honestly (wrongly) expected that we would get back together.
We went mini-golfing and had an awesome time, didnt feel awkward, lots of laughs, but afterwards she told me that she had to focus on working out all of her past issues with family, friends (one of her best friends got raped by her youth pastor etc...) and that she felt that she couldnt be with anyone, but that she loves spending time with me.
We hangout pretty regularly, usually about once/week, give or take and we always have fun (things like yoga, cooking, sporting events).
I want to stress that I am NOT in love with her, although i care about her a lot and so have strong romantic feelings that lead me to believe that we could fall in love and be very happy together. If we never saw each other again, I would be very sad, but between the original break-up and now I have had a few dates with different women so I would not say im desperate. I also feel its important to mention that I legitimately enjoy hanging out with her and although they never end with us getting back together I never regret for 1 second going and doing things with her.
Its been about a month since she got out of the hospital and I know this might take a while. Im sure she knows I would love to get back together and im just not sure where to go from here as I know anorexia and all the things that caused it for her are things she might have to deal with for the rest of her life. but she is special to me and I want to be there for her as her man.
any feed-back would be great, thanks for listening/reading.
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